Lost One! "no sex day 19" August 30th

Hello good people.
Ahh what's up?

Still no sexin going on! "Whatever" So with that said today's story isn't just about some stupid boy, its also about my girl Jenny! You guys know how I love my Golden Girls.

Although I'm the smallest one I have the most fire! And when something goes wrong in their world, I take it very personally and I try my best to rectify the situation.

Picture it, its the year 2000 in boogie down Bronx, my cousin and I are living together. Upon hearing that her man was cheating and doing her dirty, we head out to the club!"F*ck him girl f*ck him" As soon as I see him in the club I GO OFF, all in his face," what you think this is fool?" And in foxy brown &lil kim mode we go outside and gear up to slash his tires!". That's what friends are for! Lol We Break for one another!

Fast forward present day, still dealing with stupid boys, unfortunately this stupid boy has played a part in Jenny and I temporarily breaking up.

Now as I unload yet another personal story on you guys, I truly want your advice," AM I bugging?"

Here goes : " Que Ashanti, Foolish for the soundtrack."

Jenny has been dating this guy "Travis" for a while now. One minute things appear cool, he's up under her all day every day."Come meet my mama!" And the next he's M.I.A. "Yup typical stupid boy bullshit!" But Travis always pulls this episode because he insists upon squatting at Jenny's apartment when she's not home! " Huh?" Exactly! Dude is like a nomad! He's supposedly in between situations (mama house and Nowhere's-ville) so when he's hanging out in the city, he likes the convenience of being able to stay at her crib. When her response isn't what he wants to hear "No", he goes disappearing! I'm talking about for a week and some change. He ignores all her reaching out attempts, literally disappears!

When they finally do speak, they go at it! She calls it quits. Of course every time she tells me this I become enraged! "He's using you!" I Bark. "Cut the shit! He's a bum! You can't trust that fool!" Now initially she might not be able to swallow what I'm saying, but we always get back on track. Through his actions she realizes" Nic's right, I don't need him"!

But you know how this story goes, don't cha? They need up getting back together! I don't judge, I love her! Now here is when shit gets crazy! He pulls another stinkin' episode! This time when he pulls his disappearing act, its followed by his" ex girl" calling Jenny's job! " Leave my man alone, get a clue" wtf?? Say what now? Yup" ex girl" was calling Jenny's phone and job! When she finally got a hold of that Loser! He admits to be fucking "ex girl", even in ol girl's presence while Jenny ripped him a new one! Talking bout " she went through my phone and got your number!" "Well that's even more proof how p@ssy he is, he got you all out there like that" I screamed!

Whew !I get heated just thinking about the level of disrespect! So you already know how mad I got when Jenny told me they got back together!!!" What?! You take him back with no real time in the Dog house, are you serious? You know the only way to train a dog is to rub his nose in his shit! Yelling is useless!" I got so mad I told her I can't speak to you anymore, I need to take a break from our friendship! I just felt at the time like that's the only thing I could do or say, to such insane behavior! I'm going to act crazy too! Am I wrong? Well let me say this I know I'm wrong to a certain extent, because our friendship is more important. And I'm sure she knows if she needs me I would be there in a second but I wanted to ring her neck! I seem to have a hard time sitting on the sidelines watching a freak show!

What should I do? Am I totally F-ed up? Does anyone understand where I'm coming from? Or should I run to Jenny with my tail between my legs and tell her Sorry :(

www.NicoleSpence.me

No Sex I Said! Day 7

So I've been getting a lot of reaction to my No sex revelation. Some feel like I'm not going to do it! Can I blame them? Hell no considering I'm the first one to tell you "get rid of that Zero if he ain't no Sex hero!"

Those that didn't flat out say I couldn't do it, felt the need to chime in and question why sex would be so important to me in the first place. That inquiry introduced the necessity to explain to me that its not the sex between a man and woman that's important, its the connection.
" Listen sucka I get that" but even when I feel like we can be all that, the sex is wack wack, and I won't be sticking around for that shit, why front?

Sex is sex and love is love, I know the difference, and still want both! Geez!

I just openly have to admit that maybe while chasing one, the other is getting away. Let's be clear I don't miss any of the dudes that I ran off on, so to my credit I do think I'm a good sifter of the bullshit. But eventually I'm going to have to build with someone, and I know that. I just don't know how! I'm too busy thinking bout the Johnson.

A guy friend of mine thinks I'm a nut case to even attempt to deprive myself of something so good. This young philosopher eloquently put to me, that "Sex with no attachment is like someone who smokes weed everyday, as long as it doesn't get in the way of your day to day, its all good"! Right on young Socrates! lol.
But I don't have a problem with attachment, my problem is I'm never Attached! I never want to turn any of this into something. I love the nothings!

I'm the Dog that stays up under you because I want the bone! Not because I want a relationship but you have the D so that's where I want to be!

So this time off is going to help me put things back into perspective.
"What do you really want Nicole?"

You guys all know by now that my bed is barely ever jumping anyway. I turn on and off like a switch! Even though this no sex thing came about this month, the last time I had sex was June and before that January with Mr. Randy. My last session wasn't bad, it was Good.

The "brick layer" is a good friend of mine and we mutually decided to take it there based on all the flirting games we've been playing for a while, "You know you're my girl right? And you're my boyfriend" that type of BS.

Both high off the sex, we decided to keep the fire burning even though he doesn't live in NYC! Let's just call him "Country"

Anyway as quickly as Country turned me on, he turned me off! We became twitter friends! "Ugh bad decision." Through following his twitter life, I became so turned off! No he wasn't doing any crazy freaky shit on there, he was just talking too much, like a girl. Lol. Even as I yelled at him about it, he Tweeted it: "Just received an hour long verbal lashing!" Lol!
So immediately I did what I always do, cut that shit off! Now I could never imagine myself sleeping with this Chatty Cathy again, although he'll always be my homie!

In short, I just don't want to be so hungry anymore. I need to make sure he deserves to be fed!

Shoot speaking of eating, I have a date tomorrow night! And its one of those 3rd dates, where the last time we hung out there was heavy over/under the shirt touching, nipple caressing! I know this brother isn't going to feel no sex till august 2011, stay tuned for his reaction to the Newness!

Oh and as far as the oral and hand jobs go, we'll just keep that as a case by case situation! No one is trying to be a Saint over here! So I'm not quitting everything! Lol I told you I'm a work in progress, Geez Louise!

www.NicoleSpence.me

Been gone for a Minute.. August 11th

Now I'm back with the Jump Off!! Lol. Hiiii guys, I'm back! Did you miss me? I missed the shit outta ya'll but you know I can be flaky and my new job has been soaking up all my time :/ So forgive me for not writing since April! That's some BS I know! But in true Nicole fashion I'm ready to jump right back in, and dish about my life and all the frogs I've been kissing, and since I'm still single you know those Mofo's remained Frogs, not a Prince in sight!
So let's see what's been up?
Well I recently celebrated my 31st birthday (May 30th) and I'm using the word "celebrate" very loosely. Simply put I really didn't do much of anything. Birthday came and went and nothing romantic went down. My love life actually sucks right now, boring and lame as ever. I won't be bringing back any of the old characters from my previous blogs, so we can forget all about all of them. I'm ready for some new stuff, but lately I've been wondering if I put too much emphasis on Sex! Let's be clear Sex will always be a love of mine, I'm a Spence it’s in my genes. But I am going to take some time off from it!" What??" Yeaaa Yo, I'm thinking a Year with no sex will do my body right! Not because I'm over sexed and feeling the urge to tighten up. Lol. But honestly I can't tell the last time I got the Sex I wanted with the intensity and frequency in which I wanted it. So this reflection got me thinking, it’s a good time to get out the Game. Gotta stop thinking with my Box so much. Lol. All jokes aside I'm serious! No fucking for a 1year! I've actually done a bid like this before, just not on purpose. Lol.

This should be an interesting ride for you guys to accompany me with. And if I slip up and something falls inside, I'll be honest and fess up. I'm human shit! But this again is the goal. I've also decided to arm my Pilates certification with another love of mine YOGA! Yup I'll be teaching Yoga just in time for Christmas. Shoooottt maybe being a Yogi will help me center on other things instead of the 3legged monster! Lol.

Ahh but just because I won't be getting any, doesn't mean my girls won't be... And you know I like to dish on their escapades too! So there will be SEX chat! This will always be the destination for SEX LOVE and Cellulite! Lol

Eh so bye for now! BRB!
Wait does Oral count as Sex? You know I'm a pleaser. And loved to be pleased! So weigh IN are Oral games and Hand jobs are they allowed? Lol

I Thought I liked him then we had Sex!

Hi everybody,

Today's story is one I can totally relate to. I can honestly say I'm not sure how I feel about someone until we have sex! "Oh you think I'm crazy?" Lol. Seriously I just can't! The way I see it, even if he's a really cool guy and we seem to make sense, if our bodies can't talk, we have nothing! "Let me hear your body talk, let's get physical!" I'm too much of a sexual person to really have to reinvent the wheel sexually! Yea I hear everyone saying sex isn't everything, and its not. But checking my list of priorities that one is a biggie! Talking to my older girlfriends some married, some divorced, and you know the song that they always seem to sing, “please you don't need sex, its fades after years anyway, his love, security, that's what's important". And I hear them I really, really do. I was in a relationship for years, sometimes the sex was poppin’ and other times, he's sneaking in from the side. Lol "Lazy Smashing!” But come on I'm only 30 years old, my sex life is supposed to bring the fire!

Why would I sign on to do any major time with someone, who couldn't satisfy my sexual needs? Case in point: A good friend of mine Janet started talking to this guy. These two completely hit it off; Janet is usually the girl who bashes relationships and men all together. But admittingly she was feeling this brother. Well, that is until they had sex! See Janet's new boo gave new definition to the word minuteman! “I didn't know they still made those!" Yup brother couldn't make it through a song! Determined not to give up, and sadden by the thought that she would have to drop this hero turned into a zero, she gave him another chance!

“You already, know that quick shit would have freaked me out and would have me running for the hills chanting down the good dick demigods! And just like I knew he would, Janet's boo failed again!

When asked what she should do. I told her to talk to him about it, since she clearly likes him. Let's face he should know how to control his nut by now, damn it! But still, have some open dialogue. I heard drinking some Guinness stout, my do the trick, either way there are stuff on the market to help. So if he's worth it, give it the ol’ college try, but honestly the 3-strike rule should apply to this repeat offender

Only Me I Swear! April 7th

Ahhh Hi Guys!

So yesterday was a big day for me, I started a new job! I joined a great group of girls working in the Talent department @ BET, booking all shows including 106/Park, the Deal, and Specials! Yay!! Of course I was on a high, being back in my element. Immediately after I went out for Sushi and Sake with my new co works! The girls and I had the best time, I of course went in on the Sake and I was feeling fine!
The night was still kinda early so I took the train home. As soon I get on 2 train, I noticed that there a little space next to a very handsome Jamaican man, I knew he was Jamaican because the flag was on his little bracelet." Perfect! I'll sit next to him!" I politely asked him to make some room and he did so but barely looked up at me. Feeling the sake and high on my cool, I struck up a conversation by peeking over his shoulder at he was reading. "What is that about?" He told me it was blueprints for Plumbers! Cool, I'm thinking he's good with his hands :-). He seemed to be very engrossed with what he was reading, so I let him continue for a little before I interjected again and said " explain what I'm seeing to me" lol. It must have been the Sake!

This time our conversation flowed! He was nice, cute and funny. His name is actually Tyrone! I had to let him know that although I was enjoying the conversation I had to go, my stop was approaching. He quickly stated you could stay on and then just take the bus. I explained to him that I wasn't familiar with the bus, to that he stated he would accompany me on journey! Now I normally don't condone picking men up on the train and then allowing the to escort you home, but it could have been the sake or maybe I was just feeling his flow! Whatever it was I was still enjoying my night so I kept it going.

Once we got off the bus I was able to size the athletic 6'3 brother up, he was Nice. We walked about 2 short blocks home,and sat on the porch and talked some more, before I knew it was 1 am! I couldn't believe the time flew that fast, so I said I have to call you a cab I need to hit the sack!

This is when shit went Left like it always does in Nicole's world! I picked up his phone to call the cab, only to find out his phone is disconnected! He can't make outgoing calls!! Wtf??!! Are you kidding me?? Did we really just sit here and discuss my need to be with a Man that could handle his man shit, and this brother's phone is cut off! Needless to less that killed the whole night for me, I called the cab on my phone and sent his butt home! He seemed embarrassed as he should be, "Good Night!"

So can you believe this? Do you think I'm bugging would you ever call this dude, well you know when he's phone is back on? Lol

Mi Casa No Es Su Casa!

In relationships I think the newness can be the most fun, spending a lot of quality time hugged up, kissy kissy. But the flip to the bliss, is that the newness is also the time, we can get a good glimpse of the bullshit that's yet to come! So keeping those love goggles on during can be quite hazardous!

I have the perfect example. A friend recently started dating this guy. I realized something exciting had to going on with her, because usually she is the 1st one down to party. But lately she's been busy; lets call her "Tamara". Tamara loved the lovin’ so much; she didn't pay attention to all the time he was spending at her pad! And she completely ignored the fact that this big di*k brother was in between living situations! In between like, just moved out of his ex’s place and is now living with his mama in Philly, and of course at crashing at hers. Ding! Ding! He lives with his mama at 33, why?? Honestly the fact that he just got out of a relationship, and is spending all this time at her place with his feet undoubtedly up, would also be a red flag for me!

But Tamara was feeling his smooth talking and mean slaying. Did I mention he is also not working? But you know sometimes big d*ck does all the talking; we've all been there! Lol. “Stop lying! Lol”

Then one day it seems Tamara was no longer convenient for him! See last week Tamara’s boo phoned her up wanting to sleepover. She explained to him that she was already out and another day would do. George then made a bold request, " I'll just stay at your place until you come back"! Uhm excuse me? Tamara reminded him that she has a roommate and that would be inappropriate! Thinking her new boo would totally understand, she continued enjoying her night. Imagine her surprise to find out she's been put on ICE! Yup! A whole week went by with no reach out, no response to all her inquiries nothing! Poor Tammy was honestly worried, about this Fool!

EH! Classic bullshit! When he was finally ready to talk, they spoke. George expressed how disappointed he was in her decision, and because of that a "time out" was needed, not a breakup just a "time out." Now after all of this was unloaded on my ears over Tequila shots Tammy asked me “what should I do?” I say: send that Baby Boy packing big d*ck and all, he’s not a Daddy he’s a Son! Frankly he needs to get himself together before he can even think about a relationship and extended stays. George might be the kind of guy that needs women holding him down completely, therefore enabling him, and he’ll never get his man shit together. Pfffft keep it moving, for sure Girl Sorry!”

I'll take Him, Him, and Him, just throw em in a Bag!!

Don't you just wish we could shop for men like we do shoes, or anything we want? Alas dating has been anything but convenient!


But can I really complain about a “Man Shortage” if I haven’t really been giving it much energy? Let’s see I’m home every Friday night, with no socializing during the week that can’t be good. It’s not like he’s just going to ring my doorbell and say “I’m here Nicole take me!” My Lazy dating ways have stunted my twenties and I don’t want it to kill my thirties, definitely time for a different approach, and I think the Universe is trying to tell me the same thing.

The other night it was raining and snowing all types of crazy, my block kept experiencing brown outs, flickering of the lights on and off but no biggie. My cousin and I decided to just turn off all the lights, relax and enjoy the storm. All of sudden we notice lights coming from Fire Trucks! Instinctively we run to the window to see what was up. Out side the window there were 4 firemen working on the cable line directly in front of my house. When I asked what happened, a very tall dark deep voice shadowy figure stated, " that there has been some electrical problems due to the storm..blah blah". I smiled as I told him " we were fine up here". That's when he said: " Let me come up there and check?" What??" " Did he just say that, like that?" Ok, you might be asking yourself "so what"? Well me and my, non-going out behind, was like "oh snap!" My cousin and I grew big eyed as we ran as fast as we could from the living room to the bedroom, to get my tie head off my hair, comb out my wrap, and tidy my appearance! All with the energy of " this could be it Girl"!! Lmao. Only to run half way downstairs to see my brother at the door, talking to ahh dark but not very handsome firefighter! " Uhm yea we're fine, good night!"

Eh so you see what I'm saying?? I went into total Lifetime TV mode, like its every going to be that easy! Geez!


So what's the answer? Should I start going out at least 2x a week, you know totally dive into the social scene?


I was talking to one of my besties, and she told me that her sister met the, dopest guy online recently! " Shut up! Are you serious?” Yep! This adventurous 32year old single New York City girl took her love search by the balls and enjoyed Match.com! I couldn't believe it. And the guy she met is like a Principle or something with no kids! Are you freaken kidding me???

You know I'm dramatic so I start filling out the profile while on the phone, and of course she felt the need to say " remember what I told you Nicole you can't have everything, he might come in a different package." Ugh Jihan and her shortie reminders, I don't want any short man. Lol.

Sooo that's it, I'm on match.com, and this is only the beginning I'll of course keep your guys informed with the Babes and the Lames! I did a 3 months membership at about $22 dollars, which is basically what you have to spend anyway if you leave your house and go out for food/drinks with hopes there will be at least 1 cutie in the building! Ya know what I'm saying???

Here’s to another day on my Good Health, Tight Body and Great Sex plan!!

Ugly but True! February 3rd

It's no secret since I let you guys into my world that sometimes my bed is a rocking, and other times like now, ain't shit poppin! Ugh.

I'm not sure if it’s just me but when I'm sexin', I'm working out even harder during the down time in between sessions! But when the down time stretches out too long, into months, my attitude worsens and the empty calorie cravings deepen! True story Sex keeps me skinny!

So for all the good things that my mouth has been missing I've been substituting my oral urge with the other Chocolate! " Fudge Cake"! “Oh no” is right! How is eating cake going to get me any closer to favorite past time and the sweetest treat??" Uhm its not!" Like I said before men are visual creatures, gotta keep their eyes on the prize! Well for that matter so am I shoooot! I definitely want something to look at in the bedroom, and want to demand that he remain naked the entire day or lose me forever!

So for a while now I've been doing, teaching, and loving Pilates! A mind that tends to drift to sex at any point of her day, loves Pilates, because most positions require some good ol Kegel lifts! So even as I'm working my Abs, Legs, Thighs and Butt, my Yoni is being tightened too! Gotta love that shit right?

Again I've been eating a lot of Entenmanns Chocolate Fudge cake, so I had to step the cardio up and to jump back into Spin Classes! Pilates will tone/lengthen you, but to drop the LBS gotta do cardio. If you haven't taken a spin class I suggest you do! I'm talking about the best 45min cardio burn ever and a great compliment to Pilates!

The best part of these exercises for me, other than the “outer” is honestly the sexual aspect of it! Take spinning now, you're driving the pedal down with your arches (flex foot) all the weight pushing down and towards the back, abs pull in and up achieving a nice flat back, Core is engaged, and look at that now you're all set for “Back Shots!” Yay!!

What I realized is that while in my favorite position Doggie, I can really be working overtime by giving myself some Core work, and at the same time giving a better backyard visual for him. Assuming the position with your Abs pulling in and up, Shoulders down and back, creating a long lean flat Back, as opposed to plopping into position Belly all loose Hunch Back! Lol. Let’s not be that in the moment think “Porn Star”. lol
Now throw in a Kegel lift, squeeze that man, you're happy he's there!

The concept of keeping the Core engaged during (abs in& up) will help to train your belly to stay flat, no pouch!

Basically your working your mid section, as your Middle gets worked on! (Giggles). The cherry on top, Kegels will strengthen your pelvic floor, which gives us ladies a stronger orgasm (squirt anyone?) and believe it or not Crucial in achieving the flatter belly that we all want! Kegels are beneficial for both Men and Women in efforts to prevent Incontinence later in life.

Isn't that the best way to look at exercise? Translate it into, what will also work in the bedroom, or is that just me?

Oprah said that in order for you to find your passion, you have to listen to that inner voice that keeps calling you, that's the secret to a happy life. Well my inner voice keeps saying Keep it Tight, Look Great, Feel even Better and last but not least the biggie Great Sex and lots of it :-) I know I'm a work in progress a little “tardy for the party”, but I'm ready to put in the work.

I'm not ashamed to say those things are important to me, my passion. Yes, along with God first, Family, No War, and all that!! You get what I'm saying.

A nice body is worshiped and adored like a work of art!

Tonight I will dine on Tilapia," No Potato" Potato salad, (sub potato with cauliflower its yummy!!) and French cut Green Beans. Instead of Fudge cake I'll snack on 1/4 cup of Semi- Sweet chocolate chips (MUFA-good fats).

So here's to Good Health, a Tight Body, and Good.. ---! ☺

Muah
www.NicoleSpence.me

Cuma Cuma Cuma Karma Sutra! January 25th

Don't you just love today's title, every last one of you guys better be singing Boy George right now, or I will really have to question if we have anything in common! Lol.

So what do people do when they aren't getting nearly the amount of sex that want, at the level in which they want it? They think about it all the time, visit it through virtual means (via spankwire.com and a new favorite slutload.com), like yours truly! I can't help it if I'm passionate about it! And after reading that the clitoris has between 6,000-8,000 sensory nerve endings which is more than any other structure in the human body, with only one purpose "Pleasure"! So now I know I'm not crazy! I'm not happy; if my "Yoni" isn't being stimulated that's where the happiness is located, now deal with it!

The other night while I was naughty Internet searching I decided to read more about Karma Sutra, which is defined as the art of love making. This art started in India, which also speaks volumes, you know I got Indian in my family! Lol. Maybe that's why I have an inner Kink to me! Lol. Anyway, Karma Sutra is like a world of sexual positions! It was created with the main purpose stressing the importance of healthy and fulfilled sex life (Amen!)

Through my search I hit the mother load! I found www.MyKarmaSutrabuddy.com!

I just love this site, because it allows you to see the sexual positions acted out for you by 6 different body types from the In Shape chick, to the Thicky Thick girl, not to mention the Chubby man to the dude with the nice pecks and abs. They even have midget loving! You want it, you pick it, select the position and watch them play! "Wheelbarrow, Bumper Cars, Frog Leap, they do it all!!"

Since a little greed lives in all of us, even me, I didn't just stop there I also found FHM's 28Days of Karma Sutra on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WsewNGduREY.
28 naughty positions acted out by 2 G string wearing divas! These girls are giving you some Reverse Cow Girl, Stand and Deliver, The Crab, plus much more!

In sad and related news I would like to say that I've tried all these positions demonstrated on these sites, but alas my sex life ain't shit! So I haven't gotten to some of these yet. Trust and believe when I do I'll share, as I'm hoping to bring the house down! Owwwwww. While you voyage through the sites you might notice that some of these positions are new to you and some you'll just be like:

"Oh that's what it’s called"!

Either way its hella fun to watch and uhm a creative way to step the game up if need be!

Remember All those nerve endings means, the clitoris is super sensitive, and it’s actually at least 4x's more sensitive than the head of a man's Penis!

So take my advice if your lady has been fussing ask yourself:

" Have ya'll really been f@cking??" Lmao!

So forget about the plain ol Doggy and try a little Reverse Froggy ;) Loves it!!

www.NicoleSpence.me

PYP: Play Your Position! January 19th!

I felt the need to write about this, since a couple of men in my life have fallen out of my life based, on this topic. “Playing your position” is Key ladies and gents.

But the other day when one of my oldest buds tried to put me on Ice, for not being open to giving up the draws." I want some Buns Nic, have my baby!"

I realized this is an emergency, this article must be written. "Yes I'm so dramatic!" So after about 2weeks of us barely talking, and absolutely no text messages. I'd had about enough; I wanted my buddy back, so he needed to cut the shit!

I called this brother up and I said" Play your Position!" Stop worrying about the job you want "fucking", instead do the job your given "friendship" to best of your ability. And maybe then we can talk promotion!

* The target should never know that they are target either ;)

The same shit happened with that guy that kissed me waaay too early, and now 9 times out 10 we won't be kissing again. He totally ignored the fact that I was only interested in friendship right now, and upon reviewing that maybe benefits will kick in!
But nooooo, all he heard was" She's a challenge I like that, I’m a conquer this ballsy chic!"

Not playing attention caused him to act too soon, miss the mark, and now has turned me off! Not to mention the repeated texts following the date asking for more Kisses!! And again, ignoring my responses of " eh stop", and attempts to change the topic, nope he was still going hard like Chinese arithmetic (old school holla).

I know naturally if someone tells you "No" you instinctively want to turn that No into a Yes! I get it, and I've even done it! Shooot I remember this one guy like 2years ago, I had my nose soooo open I was loving that good ol lovin', and great friendship! I mean we spent everyday together Christmas, Thanksgiving, Birthdays, all that! And when I was tangled up in that drama at work, my friend held me down all day long, like it was he going through it! Wait! Back to the lovin', man I can't even look at a work out bench without blushing! Lawd! That experienced showed me how much good sex, can get you in shape! Whew!

But yea, I couldn't focus and enjoy the friendship completely because I was obsessed with why he wasn't offering a relationship. Since we were friends I should have understood why, since I knew what he had been through in past. But nope I made it into an Ego thing! I made it about me when it wasn't. He never said I wasn't good enough, and he actually showed me I was; by giving me the love and support I needed.

Basically what I had to realize is that we are in a Relationship, we're Friends. What he was giving me was better and saving me from was all the fuckery that comes from saying you're committed, when truth is he might need to be “committed!”

So I say relax and enjoy what you have stop being soo damn greedy!


www.NicoleSpence.me

He thought it was a good Kiss?!

Hiii
Happy New Year! (All late yes I know) But sometimes-real life is slow :/

I am soo a believer in a kiss can make it or break it, I've actually been running that line since the 7th grade you can ask my bestie Aisha! But in order for the kiss to seal it, don't people normally give off kissing signs? And it’s not me applying my lip-gloss buddy! Geez!

Case and point the other night someone forced a kiss moment when there was none. We had just finished spending a couple of hours hanging out at this sports bar downtown and we were proceeding to his car. I guess I said something witty or funny so he thought "good moment", because as my hand approached the car door to open it, he called me to come to where he was standing in front of the car. I thought maybe he was about to smoke a cig and didn't want me to just plop my ass in the car just yet. So I walked over and said, “what's up”? That's when he goes in for the kiss!! Immediately my mouth tensed up, all these thoughts are running through my mind like " “how did we get here? Really, you want to kiss me after eating a burger with onions”? So I tell myself over and over" Nicole relax maybe this won't be soo bad if you relax your jaw and your mouth stop contracting all muscles! Mouth looking like a prolapsed bottom!" Lol

It wasn't working so I pull out early, and I say nothing while walking back to the car. I just love to kiss so much, for me it can make me feel like making love you know, make me that hot! Is that just me?? But anyway when I got in the car he said," that was great!" He loved it! I just smiled. "Awkard"!

I mean I think all of you can tell by now, that I'm not afraid to make a move when I'm ready and want too. I just think eh the kiss happened too soon. Although we had a pretty chill time, and we will probably hang out again that doesn't mean we need to be all kissy kissy just yet. Its different strokes for different folks, some folks will get stroked quick and others have to wait. Lol.

He did say some interesting stuff, like he randomly checks a woman's bathroom and if he doesn't see Summer's Eve he isn't licking it! Lol. Yup that's his deal breaker!! Have you ever heard that??!!! Only me! Oh and he thinks girls who notoriously double text are sexy and cute. Apparently that tells him that she's secure enough in herself that she doesn't care what he thinks she wants her response Now! "Interesting"

Wow! Who knew??!!! I tell you, men love us when we act crazy!! Lol!

So in efforts to avoid another oral catastrophe I decided to jot down some signs I think are pretty universal that a woman wants to be kissed, although I think most women i.e. "Me" just make it happen all on my own.

• She might lick and bite her lips constantly! That’s goodie although again for me I’m a bit of an LL Cool J chick always licking my lips so this might be the bamboozle with me! Lol
• Heavy touching, caressing you’re hand a subtle back rub..
• A bit too “touchy feely means touch me “

Ahhh you get the picture, in the words of my big homie “ Know your Personnel”


www.NicoleSpence.me

Tis the Season to Deck the Balls! December 21st!

Happy Holidays Everybody!!
Tis the season for giving right? How about giving a gift that can’t be duplicated and that your man will find irresistible, and the one thing he can never get tired of receiving! “HEAD” Let’s step the head game up a couple of notches! Lets face it that’s what he really wants, and everything else costs! Lmao . Head is free!!

I’m no Pro at the head game, {just enjoy it} so I had to do some research. I found some interesting tips that I thought might be easy to incorporate into the sex play without feeling like “WTF Am I doing??”

So on Saturday night while the New York City streets were covered in a blanket of snow, and most New Yorkers were under someone, on top of someone, or my favorite behind someone, I was home alone with a good ol book! Well not just any book, I was reading “Pleasure - A woman’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve.” written by a good friend of mine Hilda Hutcherson, M.D. I just love Dr. Hilda I’ve had the pleasure of working with her for several years when I was a talent producer in radio, so I knew she knew how to guide me on rocking the mic right!

According to Dr. Hilda great oral sex starts with the ears! Yup! Apparently kissing and sucking on the areas as far away from the penis will of course increase his intensity and anticipation of you putting him in your mouth! Slowly work your way down to his penis, teasing him! I thought that was pretty cool, because sometimes you just rush down there you know, but nope nope slow and steady is key! Lol.

Here are some basics:
- As you slide your mouth up and down his penis, twist your head in corkscrew fashion.
- Take his penis in your hands. Playfully slap or rub it along the side of your face, lips and nose as he watches.
- While sliding his penis in and out of your mouth, pull down the skin of the penis and hold it taut. Stretching the skin will increase the sensations he feels while you lick, suck and swallow his penis.
- While moving your mouth up and down his shaft, circle the head with your tongue.
- Slide as much of his penis in your mouth as you can, now curl your tongue up and toward the back of your throat repeatedly in a lapping motion.
- Gently blow on the moistened areas.
- Use the tip of your tongue to flick the opening of the urethra, the tiny opening at the top of the head.
- Using your flat soft tongue begin at the seam down the middle of the scrotum, and lick up to the base of the penis, then across, circling around one testicle and back to the Seam. Then lick up over and around the other testicle and back to the seam forming a figure 8!
- Place one hand at the base of his penis and your mouth above your hand. Let your mouth work in concert, as your mouth moves up your hand follows. When you reach the head, your mouth slides off, while your hand goes up and over the top of the head and back down. Your mouth follows. Repeat.

Don’t forget to show him how much you are enjoying this, while he is in your mouth moan deeply ”Mmmmmmm” they can actually feel your moan and it’s a nice sensation for them. Lets face it a big reason why men love Head so much, is because its like you are worshipping his penis, showing him how much you love the way it looks and tastes! “Don’t be quiet about it suck that Mofo” in the eloquent words of my Sagittarius homie, who weighed in on this topic! Suction can create a nice sensation, while sliding your mouth up and down his joint.

It has always been my understanding that the more spit the better! “Make it sloppy for Daddy”! You know because you want to give the illusion that they are inside you. But what I didn’t know is that people sometime use Lube while giving head! “Who Knew”? Well I took a trip down to Soho to the Toys of Babeland shop, and that’s what the sex educator Darlinda told me!!

Try using a Silicone Lube, a little goes along way, but it has no taste so go crazy if you want. Lol.
Also Babeland sells this finger vibrator, that you place on your finger and rest it on the outside of your cheek, once you put him inside your mouth, angle it toward your cheek so he can feel the vibrations!

Man I tried it with my finger in my mouth, and I gotta tell you I think that would be some shit right there, It felt soo good! And do you know what else I‘ve been sleeping on?? The Blindfold, action! Studies show that your sense of touch is only heightened when loosely blindfolded! (This is especially good if you don’t like him watching!) Talking about slippin’ on my pimpin’! Well no more, I picked up a blindfold at Bableland!

Ahhhh so that’s just a little something of what you can try with your Fella.

Cheers! Happy Holidays, and if you’re bringing in Christmas and of course New Years with some bubbly Champagne, as you fill your mouth up, don’t just drink in vain, remember that these bubbles can also provide a nice sizzling sensation for his member ☺

FA LA LA FELLATIO!!!!

He's afraid of the Big Bad Butt!! December 8th

Hey People!
Sorry I've been gone finals have been kicking my ass! But, Wednesday is the last day of school so I'll be all yours again!

Any who of course I got an interesting story, a tale of some bullshit!

You know when I was a little girl my Uncle Mark always used to tease me about my big butt! He would always let me know, that when I grew up my boyfriend would love me for it though! Considering I was a little girl, and insecure about this big ol' Rice n Peas butt, I didn't know what he was talking about. I thought I was fat!

Fast forward I grew up and my butt grew in size as well, and my Uncle Marky never lied! The Boys loved me for it. Well at least the ones that could handle the butt did! Lol.

With that said one of my bootylicous girlfriends went out with this rapper, with only one record under his belt the other night and check what he had to say!

You know I gotta leave names out so let's call her Jenny! Well I love Jenny's shape, she's a thick girl, but not too thick, and a very pretty face!

Here she was out to dinner with this lame eating and talking, and he tells her "you know Jenny you're the first thick girl that I've ever dated"! Really? "Why" she asked! He goes on to tell her that he "normally likes to date smaller girls, because his joint looks bigger while hitting it from the back!!!" WTF?? Apparently he feels that with Thick girls, it creates a bit of an optical illusion, where his dick just magically looks smaller in comparison to a big ol' booty!!

Now isn't that some bullshit! Clearly your joint is just small! I thought a big booty just personified "Smash"! And you know his butt is all chubby and out of shape, but he wants to put emphasis on my girl's body! I think not, you Loser! Accept your small tool and deal with it, don't try to make her feel insecure at the party!

Man I remember when I was younger, just new to sex, I had no idea about positions and so forth, just knew about the "IN, Out, IN!" But you know you're still curious, so you talk about it with your girl and guy friends! I remember it like it was yesterday, when my friend at the time Tiba, asked me if I was receiving "back shots"! When I told him No, he questioned why! I had no answer for him, but he could tell by the look on my face that I was wondering too. So he said to me, please don't think its because you're butt is too big! Tiba knew I was insecure about my womanly body back then! "That dude ain't hitting it from the back, because he can't reach Nic, not because of you!" That shit never left my head, Yea! Its not me, it's him! "He can't work the middle, cuz his thing's too little!" Lmao!

Ahhh but I say all this to say, sometimes these dudes have a way of putting their insecurities on you to carry! Fuck that, let them carry their own shit! Love your body, and Rep every chance you get! Confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear in the bedroom, and now a days I never leave home without it! Church!

Fellas are you "Repping" every time you put IT down?

Or is your wicked M.O." Not everyone gets the good Di@k??"

Aaaaahhh good D makes me feel so appreciated like you cared enough to give the very best! Lol.

Since the weekend did start out kinda rainy, you already know where my mind was! You guessed it! In the gutter!! Lol.

But alas Mr. Randy and I fell off like 3months ago, and I’m no longer interested in that guy from "Are you confusing Sex with Intimacy" simply because he's a "We-r"! You know the guy that talks a lot of "We" shit, when they are really on some "Me" shit! He actually got flaky once again, like immediately after we hung out! I'm talking one-word responses via text and over all dry ass attitude! So it was the final curtain call this time. Womp womp! I would have clued you guys in then, but I was bored with that topic.

So anyway back to the rainy weekend. Well Mr. Randy knows who he's dealing with, because he knew what call to place and what to say to get my butt right over to his place! "Yay! He read my mind!" Man it’s just something about that Rain booooyyyyy!! It does things to me! I think its all the wetness that's outside that keeps me thinking dirty! A rainy night is definitely not for my platonic friends! Shooooot!

Ahhh Mr. Randy he's not perfect no, but so my flava!" Spicy" Boy o boy does he Rep his city each and every time! He wouldn't dare give this girl any lazy D to deal with! Oh no not him!

But you know good di@k also makes you reflect on those who were soo lack luster! Reminds me of this guy who I used to see and he would always tell me " you should be more appreciative of this good di@k I'm giving you!" You know me I'm nonchalant, but I wasn't sure what type of appreciation he was looking for. For me the di@k was cool, but what's your point. He tells me how he can't f@ck every girl the way he fu*ks me, because if everyone got it this way he would have to deal with chicks falling in love with him!
" Are you for real?? Is that what you tell yourself to make up for your wack ass flow??" He follows with" I don't give them wack D just enough to keep em cool, but I won't go all out!"

Wow! See man that's where I see things differently! Maybe because I'm a choosy lover, but I plan to Rep each and every time we get down! If I choose to get on the mic, I want you to remember it! You think you love me cause of it? Then so be it, that's the casualty of this Sex Warring! Maybe my ego is too big, but one dissatisfied customer can cause the news to spread like wild fire!

But I bet he's not alone! And I'm sure some of you men do that same shit! "Oh I ain't gonna put it on her like that, ima just get mine!” Crap! All you one-nutter brothers stand up! If you didn't already know, you're ass is Lame! And you better start caring about the di@k you give to all your customers! There is nothing worse, than having sex but your body is left feeling like you didn't! Still hungry for some real di@k, not this no frills shit!

So uhm yes I did go backwards and got a little naughty with Mr. Randy on Friday night, and it was well worth it, thank you very much. We had seconds thirds and fourths! Shit and Saturday after Pacquiao bust Cotto’s ass, there was another late night rumble in the Bronx! Lol.

However I do think I will be breaking my rule of having him come to my house! His place is just always Cracking! Remember when his baby momma was at the door! I mean in mid-stroke the doorbell is ringing all types of crazy, and it’s his cousin ready to kick it! Talking bout a pain in the ass! (Giggles)

So yea that was my weekend, and for sure next time it’s going down at my place.

But holla at me people especially you fellas, what kind of Di@k are you currently slinging? If you're saving that Special pounding for wifey, I suggest you keep that shit to yourself and her, no need in spreading the wackness around!
Thanks!

Muah to all of my champion lovers out there, Mi love you long time!

Nicolespence.me

Does your Partner suck at dirty talk? November 13th!

Call me an old fashioned girl, but in intimate settings behind closed
doors, I like the word P*@sy! It's sexy! In the heat of passion I love
for that word to be used. However, I'm not opposed to another
word, provided that it flows and doesn't weird me the f@*k out! Lol.
I can't stand a bad shit talker, lawd!

Lmao! My homegirl's boo calls it "the Panty Pie" WTF?? Huh? Uhm, what
excuse me? Why the Panty Pie? Where the hell did you get that? He
claims it's because "it's warm like pie!!" Damn dude, I guess. That just
sounds crazy to me. Lol.

Got me thinking, I remember when a former flame used to always refer to
it as "her" and "she" and talk to "her" in a baby voice! Like dude how
is it sexy to hear a grown ass man (who is supposed to be on the verge of
"taking it down") going to talk like a baby! It would Always take me out of my zone!

Oh, and I guess I'm supposed too breast feed you to right??!!

Is it me but I'm thinking this moment should call for the authoritative
voice! The Roar of the Tiger!
Save the soft spoken voice for the ladies.

Ahhh the weird shit people say in bed.

I could be a bit of a hypocrite because I've never asked a guy what he
would prefer to hear! I'm assuming D**k is universal, right? I mean what
else am I going to call it? C**k isn't my sort of thing, do people still
say that outside of porn?

Well my approach is to not over think these things, just say whatever
pops out! Lol. You know K.I.S.S. (Keep it Simple Stupid)

But fellas what are you calling your Peter these days? And Ladies what
would you like him to call your Cookie? Tell me!!

NicoleSpence.me

You know He's going to call Girl!!

So what to do in the mean time?

When I was younger I dated the same" knuckle head I think I run this town" boy from junior high all the way till the end of high school and some of college. Nadir is his name (his real name too shoot!). Well Nadir was my first and he also the only guy that had me on some stupid shit! Lol. I can laugh at it now, because those days are long behind me. But boy was I caught up! Man no matter what that boy did, I was going to love him anyway! He was my first after all, July 6th 1996 the summer before my high school graduation to be exact! Lol. Aisha's parents weren't home and I lost my virginity in her bed, talking about being best friends! Lmao Ahhh Kids! Lol

Anyway every time we would break up which was all the time, because I wasn't giving it up early enough for him so he had to make his rounds around town! Back in the day I thought the "fingers" were the real deal, so no need to leave that lane! Lol As soon as we would break up I would call Aisha or Hope, inform them of the latest Nadir games. (btw to this day whenever a dude pulls some crap, all the girls and I call it " He's on some Nadir shit"!) OF course we talked about it over Chicken wings, French fries, and Cookie dough ice cream. But afterwards it was clear to me what was next! It was time for" Debut Day!"

Debut day is what I made up for the day that he sees me, smiling and looking fine! I swear I drove my girls crazy with this shit, but it always worked and I was never worried about " is it really over?" Nope it was only over until "Debut day" arrives!

See back then I never worried about if he was going to call or if I would ever see him again, although we went to different schools. I was patient not stalking is phone or pager. I was Confident and strategic ;) So Debut Day was very important! I would drop the pesky" I'm comfortable with my Boo" pounds, cut and color my hair (I used to go Red back then!), get some new Guess jeans! I mean whatever! Because on Debut Day, ima look like my life hasn't skipped one beat, I've actually gotten better! And you know what it always worked! He would see me at the mall or the movie theater; opening night at the movies was a big ass deal in a small town like Spring Valley. Everyone is out!
So I need the " have you Seen Nicole?" to be in full effect.

By the ended of the night, if I wanted to, we would be back on!

Never mind the fact that I shouldn't have wanted his butt back in the first place, that's another lesson for another time! Lol

Alas it seems as I've gotten older I've forgotten all about "Debut Day" instead when my man friend and I mash up, I'm eating! Lol. I'm eating and bitching and wondering" Is he going to call? And "No I don't want to go anywhere, so stop asking me!" Lol I mean sure I spazzed out and told him to kick rocks, but he should still call! My guess is, as we get older we tend to put too much into other people, especially men. Now Its time to redirect that energy!

So I'm bringing back Debut Day! Let's face it, they always call, but men are just better at laying low and being still during these down times. So they'll call when you least expect it! Oooo and he better not catch you on a Fat day, with your hair needing a touch up, Mani Pedi busted, and in desperate need of a wax! You know just an overall mess!

So this is for me and all my girls double checking to see if their phone is working " why aint this Mofo calling me then?" Don't worry about that phone! Like my mommy always said: " Watch pot don't cook, leave it alone!" Instead let's focus on Debut day YAY! Let's squat it out (you know a big butt is better than pretty face these days!), do some Pilates with Nicole, try a new hair style, get some Yoga in your life and sweat out all that poisonous doubt! And please don’t forget about your Kegel exercises before you go to bed at night, so the next time he enters your sweet spot, you can give his manhood a nice squeeze, choke him ;)

Most men love, a little crazy in a girl, so don't trip. Lol (stop saying he isn’t going to call! Lol) or depending on your circle you might even run into him. So that day needs to be right! Men are very visual creatures let's keep their eyes engaged! ;) Make him lock his eyes on all his missing...maybe then he'll start listening! Lol lol

Shooot if he doesn’t come back, I sure as hell bet your stocks have gone up with all this Fabulousness you're rocking! So its a Win, Win!! :-) YAY!!!

NicoleSpence.me

Can you pick up some "Gold Ones" for me?

So last Tuesday afternoon I caught up with my girl Oprah! The show covered an interesting topic , that led to a great audience discussion, that
brought back a funny memory for me.

The show was about these five older women that contracted the HIV virus
from the same guy, who was slinging his dirty penis around town. Such a
sad story. Once they were made aware that they contracted the virus they
pooled together and were able to bring him up on charges. And he was
found Guilty! He is now serving a very hefty bid of 45years in prison,
and a lifetime with the virus. The show got even more interesting as the women on the panel as well as the audience were venting about, the necessity of women carrying condoms with them, but sometimes get caught up in “the man will take care of that.”

Seeing that reminded me about this time I was dating this guy. He lived in NYC, but in the middle of us kicking it, life and his career took him to LA! I wasn't sad, just very proud of him. So on one of his trips back to NYC, he of course reached out for his NY slice, me! Lol.

So he tells me to come by the Time Hotel where he was staying, and
could I "bring some Gold ones" with me? Huh?? You want me to buy the
condoms?? What?? See back then, that was the first time I ever had to
make such a purchase! I was a little nervous, but up for the challenge.
But I sure as hell wasn't going to buy it from My neighborhood Rite Aid!
I thought "Now they're gonna know I'm having sex, hell no!" Lol.

So I decided to make my purchase at the Rite Aid right next to the Time
Hotel, where I wouldn't know the cashier. Lol. So there I am at the
pharmacy section, I remember it like it was yesterday.."Shit! There are
so many condoms to choose from." But he did say he wanted the Gold ones. I knew that meant Magnums, but still there are different types. So I
just grabbed a regular 10pack box(wishful thinking) of Magnums, and made my way through the what seemed to be prying eyes and the longest freaken line ever. With this big ol’ box in my hand! “Whew all set!”

Time for the "Hokie- Pokie" ;)

The sessions were pretty cool. We used about four condoms. Like I said,
just pretty good ;) So on the way out, I said: "Oh, uhm give me back my
condoms!" "Wtf??" He said! So I respond with: "Uhm we only used four,
where are the other six? Gimme!" He got soo upset, talking 'bout "Nicole
what're you going to do, use them??" "Uhm yea, why wouldn't I?" "Use
them for what?" "Excuse me, did they all of a sudden become water
balloons?" lol He goes on to say, “more than likely he will have sex again at some point. But I Shouldn’t.” Okay, so I should be cool after that session? And not have sex!? Is he crazy?? With my hands still out waiting for my condoms, and my eyes rolled, he asked me If I didn't want him to protect himself out there, don't I care? I responded with, "Yes I care, I want you to protect yourself, but am I supposed to supply you with condoms for the next chick? Don't you want me to protect myself??" He said "No, I want you to not have sex!" Oh please give me a break, go buy your own, these things cost me $14.99 “I want my condoms!”

What's with these men, thinking Sex is not as important to women, as it
is to men! Are we supposed to just sit back, and be placed on the
"Injured Reserve" list and wait for the coach to let us get back in the
game? Uhm No, there is nothing wrong with me, so I'll op to trade
to another team. Where I can get some PT in!

Ugh he was sooo threw with me, lol, oh well! I got my gold ones!!
Ever since then, I always have gold and sometimes red ones in my Jimmy
Choo bag ;) And after watching Oprah, I'm even more adamant about women carrying condoms with them at all times, and not relying on these dudes to bring the candy to the party.

Ok so with that said does anyone out there still get a little “shy” when it comes time to pick up some “Gold ones “?

And which brand gives you that feeling of ecstasy like there's nothing there?

Share with me!

NicoleSpence.me

Neyo's 30th Birthday party!! YAY!!

Ok so, I took my butt out to Neyo's 30th birthday Saturday night,at
Cipriani!! And booooyyyy did I have a good time!!

So let's just dive right in!! First off, I was looking fresh! You know
when you're just having one of those nights when you're feeling real
good, and looking even better in Cute and comfortable shoes too! Shit,
watch out! And for the first time ever I wore bright red lipstick! Let's
just talk about that for a second! Since I had on black latex leggings
and some booties, I thought it would be cute and different from my
normal "muted lip", to throw on some red lipstick!! Although I had to
keep re applying every now and then, because let's face it was open bar
and I'm drinking and the red didn't need to fade. The compliments about
my red lips that night were crazy!!! Crazy! My lips were getting crazy
hot attention both in person and via naughty discreet texts. So ladies
if you were like me and scared to go red, don't be! Do it!! Its like
these men turn into Bulls when the see Red!! "Torrroooo"!!!!

Back to the party! Great party! Again open bar, great food, mini
burgers, french fries, wings (but who the hell would dare to eat
chicken! Lol) and, mac n cheese! So of course I felt the need to eat
since, the food could soak up the open bar nourishment that I was about
to go in on!

Cipriani was decked out soo nicely like David Tutera did it or
something. Dim lights, winter palace type of feel. Of course to add to
the party's flare, the room was equipped body painted naked girls!!
Loved it!! Especially the girls who were in the black sparkle paint!!

So I'm standing around talking to the folks that I know there, having a
good ol' time. When my friend Jack rolls up behind me. Of course his
"non working in the industry butt, but always know about some damn
industry party" was up in the building! Lol.

We chit chat some and then he references the naked girls. "You see these
girls Nicole?" "Yea." "Damn these chicks got the cellulite." "Wtf??
Excuse me jack?" "Yea don't you see it??" "Oh really? I guess you must have
left your six pack at home huh??" He barks back with "I don't need no
six pack, my d@ck touches the floor! No lie!" "Oh please! I don't care
what your joint does, you can still stand to crunch it out!" Mannnn, you
see how these dudes are?? They want to push their own insecurity on you! Oh
so we gotta look perfect while you hand us any ol shit! "Jack this why
you're a good friend, but will always remain in the friend zone." Lol
lol

I don't know if any of you out there have seen me at a party but I'm
always having a good time despite what is going on. Everyone could be
standing around. I have my drink and I'm dancing (off beat valley
girl-ish) laughing and singing all types of crazy. Some people might
even be watching like "what party is she at??" But I don't care! Lol

Sooo I was partying hard, so hard that one of those naked girls even
picked me up!!!! Bare breast, G-string, and all. Good times!

When Neyo arrives we hug and try to briefly catch up. He's so dope, and
he actually wants to do Pilates with me!! (Yes, I teach you know ;) )

But before the night closed in true Nicole fashion, as Neyo is about to
leave, I don't know how it happened, but we started dancing all close. I
was feeling that patron again! And then Neyo does it, bites my bottom
lip! It was soo crazy!! Lol. Then we hug and say good night :)

My girlfriend was like "Ok so you just had Neyo's baby"! Lol.

What a dope down to earth guy, and he's always been that way. Can't wait
to see that movie that he shot in Prague about the Tuskegee Airmen,
comes out next summer.

Thank you so much Carter for taking care of me all night, and making
sure I didn't have to wait in any line (which was hella long!!), and
also letting Neyo know that I teach pilates ahead of time. Neyo really
is, and rolls with great people.


Whew what a night!!! Oh and I saw/ ran into Wendy Williams and her
husband Kevin Hunter. First time seeing them since... "What a
day, What a day!!" (In my Erykah Badu voice)

The whole night all I kept thinking was "where are the video cameras
when you need em", this was a great night!!!

Happy Birthday Neyo!! Yay!!!!

Snap did I forget to mention I even got a threesome offer, from this
cute girl. Gotta be the Red lips I'm telling you!!! ;)

NicoleSpence.me

Is Good Sex written in the Stars? October 13th

Good News! I’m not the only one that tends to attribute good sex, or freaky sex to certain zodiac signs some of my friends do too. What about you?

I’m a Gemini and I don’t know what it is but when I hear “I’m a Taurus, or I’m a Cancer, I get all excited. “Oooo baby I bet you hunger for it like no other!” Lol

My Taurus happened years ago and he still gets brought up to this day. The first thing my girls tend to ask when I have a new “encounter” is, “Is he a James?” lol. Although I was young, James and I had heat! Lol. Those Taurus men are always quick to argue and stand by their decision. They're stubborn as hell, and they take all that “fight” into the bedroom, and I loves it.

Next we have the Cancer man. I don’t know but these men are the most emotional creatures that I have ever dealt with. Ever! They are first ones to tell you they don’t care, you’re not affecting them, but that’s what they say! They're not "Sayers, they're Do-ers!" My Cancer would always down play his feelings, but in the bedroom, Damn It he showed up and Rep-ed! Just very intense and all about pleasing you, they take Sex very seriously, they’re very passionate. We worked up a Sweat!

That’s just me though. I was talking to some of my girlfriends, about which signs they thought laid it down. My girlfriend Jihan who is an Aries thought the Taurus man was by far the best. High five Jihanny! Renee however says she knows what kind of night awaits her in the bedroom with a Leo man. According to her they have all the skills and finesse, it kinda sounds cliché but I guess you can all that the “Roar of the Lion? “ Yikes!

My homeboy who is a cutie Sagittarius says he can always get some good loving from his fellow Sag, Libra, Leos or Gemini’s ☺

I used to hear Scorpio’s are the nastiest but now I’m hearing that, that’s all hype! I’ve never been with one at all, or even dated one, so I guess Scorpio men don’t really pull me in. Hmmm they must not be that nasty. Lol But maybe one day! ;)

What’s so crazy is that Four of my girlfriends all agreed that Capricorns are the most boring of the zodiac, with the lowest most mechanical “In Out In” Sex that they’ve ever experienced! Apparently Capricorn men ration the Goods to the point where you don’t even want it anymore, coupled with this false confidence like they're running things with this behavior! “Saving it makes it better Babe!" Bullshit. Lol Four is a pretty big number in my circle, so this can’t all be superstitious crap! Lol.

Something is definitely to this Sex and the Stars! Right? What do you think?

Check out what I read on this really cool site that I found pretty accurate regarding my sexual preference as a Gemini:

Sexual Preferences of Gemini woman
This woman is quite unpredictable when it comes to sex. The place is not as important for her as mental stimulation. Gemini woman is open to new things with no prejudices about sex . But her strongest turn-on lies in her brain. Phone sex, adult DVD and sex books are among her favorite though, because she can't imagine her life without mental stimulation. Gemini woman is innately gifted with the art of teasing, that's why a soft feather in her hands turns into a spicy sensual play with the wide range of sensations. She likes to invent new ways and intricate manipulations of pleasing her partner. She may introduce balls into vagina and as her partner penetrate her from behind or combine it with manual stimulation of the genitals.


Yeaaahh Booy Go ahead and check out this website is your Zodiac Sexual Preference correct? Is this stuff on the money, Honey?


www.sex-astrology.com



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Are You Confusing Sex with Intimacy? October 7th!

Yes I Am! So I'm going to stand up and testify, well write, but testifying all the same ;) It's been so long since I've tried to build anything with someone, I wonder if I know how. Maybe I've been "just fucking" by choice for so long I forgot the ingredients that go into making "it last forever". Its not that I take sex lightly I don't! I just haven't used that part of my brain in a long time, so "building" is a bit foreign to me. But for sex to happen I have to be Really attracted and into him for us to even take it there, plus everything turns me off! That's why I tend to go long periods with no sexual partner. I'm the girl who thinks about Sex all the time but rarely gets it:/

"Choosey Lover"!

The last time I tried to "build" something, was years ago. I haven't even shared my bed with a dude since my Ex moved out like 4years ago. "Let's go to your place" is the song I sing!

However, if I am into you.. Then I don't second-guess that urge I go with it. But its like I rely on the sex to show him how I feel. Sometimes the words just escape me so " I let my body talk"! My feelings are, how can you doubt my interest when I give it you, the way I do?

Case in point! Friday night I had an impromptu meet up with an old Friend/Flame! He's just someone that is just so special to me. We started out as friends and then we gradually (slow as a snail is more accurate) became more. Somewhere down the line things got blurred he got flaky and confusing, so I ended it.


Of course we didn't end drama less, in true Nicole fashion I spazzed out on him, told him where the f@ck to go, how the hell to get there and which highway to take! I had to go hard, because well to be honest with all of his confusion he still got close to me, only to find out he was suffering from the "Hurry Up and be mine Nicole, No wait hold up I'm crazy, pump your breaks, hold my space!" And you guys already know " There are no reservations here @ Casa de Nicole, it's a first come first serve establishment!"

So Friday I'm up to my usual tricks, food and drinks with one of my "Golden Girls" Aisha. We started out in Chelsea@Rub BBQ for some barbecue with Grey Goose,Soda and a twist of lime. (9O cals with zero carbs ;) Then we made our way to a swanky wine bar called Nectar in Harlem. Since I was in his backyard, and on that Goose, I let him know I would be there.

Poof! Here he comes to join us for drinks. Immediately we catch up, like it hasn't been 9 months of down time. Well face-to-face time, since he has been reaching out, but he was getting the eye roll each time he did. We share stories, emotions and secrets. He opens up about his love for me, and that he sees me as his best friend, that he wants to one day marry. Awwww the whole night was so warm and touching, if this was a movie Alicia Keys "Diary" would be our soundtrack! Yup he moved Nicole.

We go from Wine to Patron Shots as we made our way to the next spot without Aisha, called 17below also in Harlem. The night just got better as the time passed. So of course I want the "real" party to continue upstairs @his place.

A couple times during our conversation my mind wandered and I thought about the first time we did it, I was on top and he said: Nicole clothes don't do you justice, look at you, you're beautiful!!" What? Omg!! Get me Bodied!!" Lol (I AM Sasha Fierce! lol ) Yup I want that Old Thang back, its a quarter to 11!

Unfortunately he had already made plans to meet up with his friends, since this was an impromptu type of deal.."What -F-in-ever!" lol

He begins to tell me how tonight isn't a good night, because all we could have is a quickie! " Ok, So what?" He tells me that after the night we had and the things we shared we shouldn't just go upstairs and f@ck, since there won't be any spooning and no "Good morning, what do you want for breakfast?" (Luv his pancakes) " Shit"! "Damn you"! "I'm pissed!" You talk in your sleep anyway!LOL! It has been a while for me and you, why can't we? And its You damn it! "What's Peanut Butter without the Jelly"?

What is this Fool talking about?

This Big Baby needs her bottle to go to sleep. Bring me upstairs and knock it down then go to your party. No love loss, its love gained!

So long street bickering made short, in a horny drunken rage I walk off and head home. (Aww poor baby) I make it like 2 blocks before I realize he's walking right next to me on the street. My mouth was open, I was so shocked! That's so not a move he would normally make, but me walking away is. So he walks up to me smiles and tells me to " shut up, let's go upstairs!" Aww I love you!

The End!

Ok so sure I got my way in the end, but was his proposed ending better? What do you think?

Sure he said I treat him like a piece of meat, but to that I say: "You're my piece of meat, I can be your loyal customer. You know much I love Steak! "

PSA- to you Mister man (Yes You Cone Head!)" IF and only IF you've come back into my life to only Confuse me, not here to Love Me the way You Say You Do, remember I see Confusion as the Devil, so I will rebuke you Satan be gone!"

Muah!


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