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Lol. Ahh shit! I don't want this to be true!
The other day my girlfriend Jihan took it upon herself to school me! According to her I need to relax a little bit with my list, not be soo tight, at least the aesthetics part of it.
She's says "Nicole he might not come exactly the way you think he's going to come". See if Nicole says I want Tall Dark Handsome, and uhm that's exactly what I want. Lol I don't want to try anything else, thank you very much. "Problem" says Jihan; "your guy might come short and kinda thick"! What?? Why??? Why are you damning me Jihanny?!
Would you believe she accused me of "acting like a dude!" " Nicole come on Men that are too pretty come with too much drama, and they don't ever want to do shit. "When was the last time a pretty one didn't come to you with some bullshit?!( :/ ) The Alright to the Ugly looking dudes have to work a lot harder at everything! At life! The Cuties tend to have things handed to them"!
The trend that Jihan is noticing is that the world is a bit colder to the ugly guy, slightly awkward guy, so he's a lot more determined.
"Nicole when was the last time you saw two pretty's together??"lol. "You always see a Dime piece with someone a little bit under". Lol She says "the Ugly guy will cherish you,he sees you as his prize! Meanwhile the cutie is in competition with you! That ass thinks he's the prize! He believes deep down you'll put up with his shit, because he's so fine"! Yikes I'm beginning to feel exposed Jihan, stop it, and get the light out my eyes please!! Lol Jihan urged me to start looking into security and not his looks! She says" he doesn't have to be totally Ugly, but he doesn't have to be 100% your type either". You gotta start giving other guys a chance Nicole!
I must tell you the whole thought of this bullshit, is making me feel soo Waiting to Exhale! Of course I'm Robin, and I'm trying to get it poppin' with the fat dude with glasses, because he could provide the house in Scottsdale! When I really want Russell!! Ok fine maybe Robin did end up pregnant with Russell's baby and alone. But to this day I sure as hell didn't and don't think she missed the boat with fatty! House or no House! Or should I say Boat or no Boat( Rohan joke! Lol) In my movie Russell comes with the house in Scottsdale, ya dig!
Shit I know some girls who won't date a man if he doesn't have a car! Not me, I'll date him if he's a cutie! Is that bad? Lol. It’s NYC I don't mind cabs, or trains, just me and my cutie, besides he can always get that car..lol
You know something when I was younger I was more open to the "personality" guys. Shit this guy that I wasn't really attracted to in the beginning won me over with everything else and I ended up staying for a pretty long time. When our relationship was good it was good, but when stuff started to fizzle out I didn't have that "physical attraction" for him to bring me back. I want to still want to do my man, even though I'm mad at him! You know that intense physical attraction. Without it I was out. Lol. Since then I only drive in the Cutie lane. I'm going after what makes me hot instantly, and then we can build our bridge over troubled waters! Lol. Shit! Come to think of it, maybe that's not such a good look considering I did date this guy that I thought was soo hot, I had a real Jones in my bones for him. But come to find out he was all looks; he didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of! Lol. But since he was pretty the world seemed somewhat nicer with his dapper clothes (real deal was his B.F.F. worked @Bergdorf), sweet smelling cologne and pretty white teeth. I know I was extra nice to his fine ass and dated him way longer than I should have. I didn't wake up seriously no bullshit until I realized that he thought Las Vegas, was in Los Angeles! Lol ahhhh FML.
Well maybe I'm just a little bit Shallow Damn it! Am I Shallow Nic?!! Its not that I only want pretty looks, but I can grow to like and build with you, I don't want to grow into being attracted to him! Am I bugging? But come on you're attracted to what you're attracted to, am I really damning myself by not giving the short thick guy in the corner a chance?? Lol
No! I can't be alone! Are any of you guys, and gals successfully or unsuccessfully dating initially for the Pretty?
NicoleSpence.Me
" Nic@Nite."
Nicole you are crazy and I love it! I too have the same issue. I realized that I was shallow 10yrs ago,lol. I also had a list 10 yrs ago,lol. But, the shallowness has changed some over the last couple of years. (I also dropped the 100 item list to 10)
ReplyDeleteI don't have a type. I have a preference. My preference is that he 1st have brown skin (aka a black man!) and secondly he be taller than me. (I'm 5'9 and a half and I wear my heels baby!) Then last, I'd like to be attracted to him. I say "attracted" to him because we can agree that some men are just fine, (input Idris Elba pic here) but the thing is that we each define attractive differently. I don't like the ultra pretty men as they all seem to be a bit too cocky for my liking. To help understand my point here are some celebrity examples of "attractive" to me. I loved Biggie (I'da gave him the business!!!). YES, even if he would've never become a celebrity because that dude was charming. I'm not into round dudes at all (but Biggie was an exception). I love Idris because he is not pretty, but he is attractive. He exudes "MAN" and has great swagger. I love Ghostface because he is attractive (great smile and a ridiculous fun personality) All very different men but all attractive to me. All were attractive because of personality in the end, some I know I'd give the business to before they even open their mouth.
I agree with you 100% that you want to be attracted to your dude,I say all of this to say, sometimes it may take a little more getting to know them before the full blown attraction is there. Don't get me wrong there should be some attraction, but it doesn't have to be that full blown physical attraction immediately and why anyway, so we can f*ck at that moment and if that's the case then we're talking about a J.O. not a potential S.O. Some of the "getting to know you phase" leads us to becoming more attracted to someone. I'm a 32 yr old single-n-dating female and would like that status to change, but it can't if I don't open up/relax some of my preferences (and I believe that's what your girlfriend was trying to tell you). I recently went through this same contemplation too. But I think that we have to give people a chance. If you're not attracted to the person, it is what it is-I get that. But sometimes you may dismiss someone because you can imagine the two of you gettin it in. Maybe you should try a an exercise. Maybe the next guy that trys to holla, see if your just not attracted to him or see if your attracted to him enough to want to get to know him a bit more. You never know, he could be a gem. He could be the one that gives you that straight fi-yah! Lol.
I really like what the other comment said. Which leaves me to say less. I have a big boy and he treats me like a dime. Yeah not all the time will I love the way he looks but what attracts me is his love for me and the things I love the most. He makes me laugh, smile each day even over the phone, aloows me to be myself. He's what I always needed and yes I use to have a list but soon realize if I was asking God to send me sumone and I missed him with all my lists of demand then I'm assed out. I soon realized all I ever want is sumone to respect me and I got that and much more. U could get a big boy who's a cutie as well. Not fat and lazy let's not get it twisted lmao.
ReplyDeleteTry doing this for a while, don't think of a list and try sumthing new. Matter of fact watch the movie " Something New" you are prefect for that one. Let me know when you watched it : )
-Dee Dee
screw the looks,I want to know he can support me and get me the finer things in life...the ugly brothers be real quick to spend money on ya....the finer dudes are real quick to get the Movado for themselves and get you a pan of roses and maybe some good d!ck! I want a MAN that takes care of me...I mean never would i date flavor flav...but shyt if Weezy's toad looking as$ want to buy me a beamer and wife me...I DO :)
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't want to date the short thick guy either, ewa! But, I gotta admit, you're friend does have a very valid point, and I'm speaking from past experience here.
ReplyDeleteBTW, I learned about your blog though Charreah Jackson (Queentobe.blogspot.com) and I love your site and how you're in every pic Oprah style!
Personally, I think that you've got a good point about less attractive people working harder to get theirs. That's why I don't date the prettiest girl in the room. I try to find the nicest girl and if she happens to be pretty, that's good too. I want someone who cherishes me, not somebody who thinks that I need to be kissing her ass all the time.
ReplyDeleteYOU ARE THE MOST SHALLOW WOMAN IVE EVER CAME ACROSS...AND TO THINK YOUR NOT REALLY ALL THAT...YOUR CUTE...BUT YOU AINT NO BEYONCE.....AND IT KILLS ME HOW YOUR REALLY THINK YOUR BETTER THAN OTHERS....WHO GAVE YOU THIS SITE...I MEAN REALLY...THE BULLSHIT YOU SPEW IT IS JUST SOME TYPICAL GHETTO BULLSHIT WITH A TWIST OF PROPER EDUCATION.....YOU ARE NOTHING SHORT OF A HOODRAT.....WOMEN LIKE YOU WOW....ITS LIKE FOR SOME REASON U ACTUALLY THINK YOU ARE BETTER....I MEAN REALLY....IM SAYING THIS WITH ALL HONESTY......I WOULDNT LOOK TWICE AT YOU.....YOU LOOK LIKE SOME STUCK UP GHETTO HOODRAT......LOL....AND I WOULDNT GIVE YOU THE TIME OF DAY...AND MOST LIKELY.....YOU WOULD LIE ME.....IM NOT STUCK ON MYSELF...BUT I KNOW IM HANSOME....AND EVERYDAY WOMEN STARE AT ME...I OWN MY HOUSE AND 3 CARS....AND HAVE BEEN AN SUPERVISING COMPUTER TECH..FOR IBM FOR 10 YEARS....AND YES IM A BLACK MAN TALL DARKAND HANDSOME......IF YOU NEED PROOF OF THIS....IANMILLIGAN18@YAHOO.COM IS MY EMAIL...AND I CAN SEND YOU ALL THE PROOF YOU NEED....BUT I WOULD LOOK AT YOU AND LAUGH IN YOUR FACE...THEN AGAIN I MIGHT LET YOU BELIVE IM INTERESTED GET YOU ALL OPEN SPEND SOME MONEY GO ON A COUPLE OF DATES HAVE OUTSTANDING MIND BLOWING SEX WITH YOU AND NEVER CALL U AGAIN.....HAVE DONE IT BEFORE TO BETTER WOMEN THAN YOU....I CANT STAND WOMEN LIKE YOU.....TREATING PEOPLE AND TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU DO...WHO DO YOU THINK U ARE???
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