Dear Nicole : " My girlfriend put her finger in my Booty"! September 30th

Hey guys,
I know I'm late but Let's get busy( in my Aresenio Hall voice! Lol),
I have an interesting Dear Nicole letter read below:


the other night while getting some head from my girl she tried something new and stuck a finger in my azz and i nutted like i never before and it felt really good but i don't want her to think I'm gay or something how do i tell her i really liked that shit damm why did it feel so good? i need to know because if felt so fucking good but i'm no fag is that acceptable? thanks


Wow!! My first reaction is that you're not gay! But Let's be clear if a man that I'm seeing asked me to put a finger in his booty, I would immediately think his ass was gay!!
I mean that's just a hell of a request!
But you didn't ask for it, your girlfriend just tried something new and it turns out you dig it! It's actually kinda cool, that you guys are delving into uncharted territory like that. Sounds freaky but she is teaching you about your body. So that's cool! And I don't think you have to tell her how much you liked it, I'm sure she can tell by your reaction! Shooot if she likes to "Rep her city" as much as I do, she'll be doing that shit again and again for that same explosive reaction! Congrats!!

The flip side to that shit is,
I'm wondering if this is something you'll want all the time, now that you've been let's face it turned out! Ya'll remember Jameson the guy from the Swinger club, well he too told me about his girlfriend's need to put something in his ass!!" WHY"??? WTF?? Chicks want dicks now?? "WHY??" I'm cool on that shit all together, no thanks! I'll keep my pretty lotus flower!

So of course I'm wondering if this finger in the booty thing is going to or has it already spread like a freaking epidemic?? Shit balls ain't enough, now you guys need a finger insertion to get off?? Ahhh its like that Chris Rock joke, " Don't blame him, blame the nasty bitch before you, that's why he wants to do all that nasty shit!" Lol!

I don't know ass play has just never been my cup of tea. My ex tried that finger in my booty and I just don't like it! I rather have a "Salad", if you know what I'm talking about!! Lol So he can forget about anal sex all together!

Come to find out not all of my girls share my feelings about thinking back shots are enough, and I don't need it in my ass literally!

One of my younger girlfriends opened up to me because of this very topic! Apparently, she used to give her Ass to her man a bit too often she now realizes! He never once ate her pussy(remember her from " Are you rocking the Mic, and he's refusing to spit a verse!"), but he always wanted to do it in her butt! But she confessed that after doing in her butt for a while, her butt began to want it!! "WTF??!!! He turned me out she screamed!! WTF is all I can say!!! I watch a lot of porn ( stop judging me lol) and those big ol assholes look very scary and nasty to me! Nope nope not me! And how long does it take for your asshole to go back to normal? You ass givers holla at me! Lol

See man all that Ass play sounds very suspect to me!!! Is the Ass the new Pussy??

Hmmm this got me thinking, how did the finger insertion take place what position?? Were you laying down with her sucking and licking and then she cocked your legs back like a girl? Did she lick the area and then insert? Or was she on her knees and kept licking underneath and then made her way there and popped her finger in?? And which finger is she using? Was it one or two fingers? I need to know it all damn it!!

Alas there is no doubt about my friend your girlfriend has definitely opened up a door, but now that its open you never know what she might try next a finger could lead to a.... you know!!

But if you like it, I love it, so continue..and share with me!!! :-)


Tell the truth fellas do you like a little finger in your Anus? Lol. Ladies do you fantasize or have tried to stick your finger in your man's Ass?

Ps I really want to know how she went about inserting the finger, so hit me back buddy ;)

www.NicoleSpence.me

He went Limp Noodle during..Sept 21st

So a good friend of mine recently started digging in the crates, and began messing with an old flame!
These 2 dated years ago pretty heavy actually, ish happened and they parted ways. But now he's back! The sex that she remembers was pretty fiery! Although she does recall having to initiate some of their sexual encounters. But it was still pretty Calente!


He's about 8years older than her, so she was looking forward to the whole " daddy" experience. Unfortunately things "down south" haven't been quite the way she remembers, while talking over Patron shots, she asked me if she should give him the ol Heave hoe!
Here's the skinny!

For starters he always wants to have sex in bedroom! "How boring"! Never has their sex been in random places, which can totally spice things up. Even when the make out session starts out in the Living Room, and he's bending her over the couch kissing (well smooching is more accurate lol) her passionately.. He still insists on closing the deal in bedroom! " Lame"! Unfortunately I can relate to that part of the bullshit! I remember while dating someone a while back, he thought that certain stuff that I wanted in bed like spanking or heavy shit talking, wasn't appropriate to do with "Wifey"! Which I never understood, and quite frankly help to end our situation! My thought process was " oh so you're gonna give me the wack dick and then fuck the shit out of someone else, because she isn't you're girl!" Well then I don't want to be your girl, now can I then get the dick I want?? " Thanks!"

She also doesn't like the way he kisses, it seems like this dude only likes to gives pecks! It’s like raping his ass to get a little tongue! " You got to be kidding me??" I'm sorry but a kiss can make or break it. I know some people don't like to kiss, but me I want it and you better kiss the shit outta me or we ain't doing shit else! So I totally get why she is so frustrated!

Ya'll know if he isn't really kissing you can forget about foreplay, which he has totally. He'll give her a little nibble on the nipple, and that's about all he's gonna do! Just recently he called himself spicing it up by giving her sweet spot quickie kiss, which BTW he routinely avoids doing. I never ever understood that shit, and it always takes place with the big d@ck men! Its like they figure you should take this big d@ck and shut up! But come on doesn't that Steak look bare on the plate with no sides?? You need something like potatoes to go with it, right? Well pussy is the potatoes, eat it damn it! Shit! And after that lack luster oral performance, you guessed it! He's ready to start the show! " Yikes"

But the shit that broke the camel's back and the shit that I'm pleading with her not to stand for, put on your shoes and get to running.. Dude went Limp during their session TWICE!! At this time her arousal is purely stimulated by the size of his Johnson, not because he knows what to do with it. So of course she is starting to do the math!

This is how the wackness would usually jump off, things would be getting pretty hot, and as soon as its time to change positions, he gets soft! And like a true lame he tries to act like she can't tell that ish just happened! So what does he do? He tries to still cram “Mr. Softie” in of course to no avail! "ILL Gross!!" I mean u can't ride it, if he's not at attention, so WTF! " This is getting awkward dude!" And can you believe this MoFo wants to always leave the lights off too, like All the time! I guess he doesn't want to see the disappointment on her face, because I don't know too many dudes that don't want to see the Show! Right? To her and I'm sure all of you the sex seems very mechanical!

She's not kidding herself she knows he's not a good lover but the size sometimes calls her! Lol I gotta laugh because I know what that's all about, you get a big one and you want to Will that shit into working!! Lol Simply cuz the D looks soo pretty and yummy!! Lmao!

So my smart ass question to her is" what you trynna do? 3 strikes and say you're out??"Because I would have cracked his skull already! " Uhm excuse me, you see I got this f*ck body don't you? Well then you betta fuck me!" Sorry buddy those are the rules; you need to have a steel bat to play this game!


So I say that it’s over like a Fat Rat! I normally just bounce if I'm sexually disgusted, but maybe that's immature. So go ahead and have a conversation with him, since in the past he was able to deliver. There might be a better explanation for the Limpness!
I mean you just never know..


Maybe he has an issue with condoms, he did just get out of a relationship so he might be used to the “Raw” or maybe he's trying too hard, and it’s fucking with his mentals so he can't stay hard! But with all these problems with his pipes, do you really still care? Lol Do you really want Temperamental Penis?

What do you guys think? What is dude's problem and should she even try to talk it over with him, or just Peace it out?

NicoleSpence.ME

Wanna Swing? Sex club invite! September 14th

So I was on the way to school talking on the phone with one of my girlfriends. I brought up a previous conversation that I had with my friend Jack. Just recently Jack invited me to go with him to check out this Sex club in Brooklyn. Jack knows damn well that I won’t be partaking in any of the reckless behavior, but we both figured it would be juicy material for me to write about, if I wasn’t such a damn fraidy cat, and I actually had the balls to enter such a place.

The crazy shit is nasty people are everywhere, as I’m walking and chit chatting to my surprise this clean cut black guy over hears my conversation. As I attempt to cross the street he stops me. Now I’m thinking “ Oh you want my number?” But No! He tells me “ I didn’t mean to over hear your conversation, but I did. My girlfriend and I are looking for a new Sex club, can you tell me the name of the one you were just speaking about?” Get the fuck outta here! You swing? He begins to ask if I’m apart of the “community” I say, "No" followed by a very loud weird laugh. Lol

But me being nosey I just had to get all up in his Kool- Aid! “ Tell me all about this Sex club, and your Boo! “ Dude was so cool and really didn’t mind sharing their story with me. Let’s call him Jameson!

Jameson and his girlfriend have been dating for about a year now. However, after about 3months of dating she found his porn collection in his apartment. Jameson remembers feeling awkward and embarrassed at her finding them. To his surprise she was more than cool with his collection and began to inquire whether he would be interested in watching Live! Of course instinctively he thought that shit was some type of joke or massive set up. Lol. But nope she was serious, she begins to tell him that she is a member of this sex club in the Meat Packing district, and that they could go there together and “play”. Man I just couldn’t believe my ears! The girl is the one who turns out the guy?? Wow! So the deal with the Sex club is that No single guys couples only. Single girls are allowed but a female member must accompany the men. Not everyone engages in sexual activity there, some women are dressed in lingerie or naked but you might even see women in business attire! “Shut Up”!

The first time Jameson and his girlfriend visit the club he was very nervous, so his girlfriend did most of the work, you know selecting the couple. Their first time was with an older white couple but it wasn’t at the club. The couples made a date to meet another night to exchange medical records and “connect “ in a private setting. Jameson says that this is a “lifestyle” medical checkup are mandatory and that people who are in this community are a lot more health conscious then us “naysayers.” He assures me that condoms are always heavily enforced! I hope so shoooooot! Once at the couple's apartment and pleasantries are exchanged, the wife begins to make her move on Jameson and starts to kiss him. Since he was still feeling a bit uneasy he glances at his girlfriend who encourages him to enjoy as she makes her way across the room to the husband. Some swingers might switch partners during their session, but these two were in it to experience someone new to the fullest!

After their encounter Jameson and his girlfriend go back home and have sex, alone! According to him the sex is even better! The sex was even hotter because these two were trying to restore the balance in the house. You know that “ this is still my pussy” type of shit!


I can’t lie I always find open relationships interesting especially when you see couples “successfully” making it work. I keep hearing that the trick or mindset is to see sex as just that sex.


Here's an interesting statistic though; according to www.ActualSwingers.com 20% of American couples are Swingers! And that couples that enter into a swinging lifestyle can increase their enjoyment and satisfaction in the relationship. They also consider this lifestyle as bringing in a better understanding of themselves and their partner, therefore enhancing their intimacy. Couples who “ Swing” don’t’ enter into to this lifestyle because they are currently in a failing relationship. It’s the opposite. These couples consider themselves to have a great foundation built on trust.

Oh yea when I asked Jameson if he would marry his girlfriend, he responded with “Ahhh right now we’re just having fun, I’m not thinking about marriage”! Uhm I didn’t think so buddy!!

Although I may visit and be curious a Swinger’s life is not for me. But if my Golden Girls and I ever make it to a Sex club you guys will be the 1st to know.

Anyway who else is swinging out there? Have you ever wondered how the other side lives? Share with me!!


www.NicoleSpence.ME

Ugly = Security? September 8th!

Lol. Ahh shit! I don't want this to be true!

The other day my girlfriend Jihan took it upon herself to school me! According to her I need to relax a little bit with my list, not be soo tight, at least the aesthetics part of it.

She's says "Nicole he might not come exactly the way you think he's going to come". See if Nicole says I want Tall Dark Handsome, and uhm that's exactly what I want. Lol I don't want to try anything else, thank you very much. "Problem" says Jihan; "your guy might come short and kinda thick"! What?? Why??? Why are you damning me Jihanny?!


Would you believe she accused me of "acting like a dude!" " Nicole come on Men that are too pretty come with too much drama, and they don't ever want to do shit. "When was the last time a pretty one didn't come to you with some bullshit?!( :/ ) The Alright to the Ugly looking dudes have to work a lot harder at everything! At life! The Cuties tend to have things handed to them"!
The trend that Jihan is noticing is that the world is a bit colder to the ugly guy, slightly awkward guy, so he's a lot more determined.

"Nicole when was the last time you saw two pretty's together??"lol. "You always see a Dime piece with someone a little bit under". Lol She says "the Ugly guy will cherish you,he sees you as his prize! Meanwhile the cutie is in competition with you! That ass thinks he's the prize! He believes deep down you'll put up with his shit, because he's so fine"! Yikes I'm beginning to feel exposed Jihan, stop it, and get the light out my eyes please!! Lol Jihan urged me to start looking into security and not his looks! She says" he doesn't have to be totally Ugly, but he doesn't have to be 100% your type either". You gotta start giving other guys a chance Nicole!

I must tell you the whole thought of this bullshit, is making me feel soo Waiting to Exhale! Of course I'm Robin, and I'm trying to get it poppin' with the fat dude with glasses, because he could provide the house in Scottsdale! When I really want Russell!! Ok fine maybe Robin did end up pregnant with Russell's baby and alone. But to this day I sure as hell didn't and don't think she missed the boat with fatty! House or no House! Or should I say Boat or no Boat( Rohan joke! Lol) In my movie Russell comes with the house in Scottsdale, ya dig!

Shit I know some girls who won't date a man if he doesn't have a car! Not me, I'll date him if he's a cutie! Is that bad? Lol. It’s NYC I don't mind cabs, or trains, just me and my cutie, besides he can always get that car..lol

You know something when I was younger I was more open to the "personality" guys. Shit this guy that I wasn't really attracted to in the beginning won me over with everything else and I ended up staying for a pretty long time. When our relationship was good it was good, but when stuff started to fizzle out I didn't have that "physical attraction" for him to bring me back. I want to still want to do my man, even though I'm mad at him! You know that intense physical attraction. Without it I was out. Lol. Since then I only drive in the Cutie lane. I'm going after what makes me hot instantly, and then we can build our bridge over troubled waters! Lol. Shit! Come to think of it, maybe that's not such a good look considering I did date this guy that I thought was soo hot, I had a real Jones in my bones for him. But come to find out he was all looks; he didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of! Lol. But since he was pretty the world seemed somewhat nicer with his dapper clothes (real deal was his B.F.F. worked @Bergdorf), sweet smelling cologne and pretty white teeth. I know I was extra nice to his fine ass and dated him way longer than I should have. I didn't wake up seriously no bullshit until I realized that he thought Las Vegas, was in Los Angeles! Lol ahhhh FML.

Well maybe I'm just a little bit Shallow Damn it! Am I Shallow Nic?!! Its not that I only want pretty looks, but I can grow to like and build with you, I don't want to grow into being attracted to him! Am I bugging? But come on you're attracted to what you're attracted to, am I really damning myself by not giving the short thick guy in the corner a chance?? Lol


No! I can't be alone! Are any of you guys, and gals successfully or unsuccessfully dating initially for the Pretty?

NicoleSpence.Me
" Nic@Nite."