Can you pick up some "Gold Ones" for me?

So last Tuesday afternoon I caught up with my girl Oprah! The show covered an interesting topic , that led to a great audience discussion, that
brought back a funny memory for me.

The show was about these five older women that contracted the HIV virus
from the same guy, who was slinging his dirty penis around town. Such a
sad story. Once they were made aware that they contracted the virus they
pooled together and were able to bring him up on charges. And he was
found Guilty! He is now serving a very hefty bid of 45years in prison,
and a lifetime with the virus. The show got even more interesting as the women on the panel as well as the audience were venting about, the necessity of women carrying condoms with them, but sometimes get caught up in “the man will take care of that.”

Seeing that reminded me about this time I was dating this guy. He lived in NYC, but in the middle of us kicking it, life and his career took him to LA! I wasn't sad, just very proud of him. So on one of his trips back to NYC, he of course reached out for his NY slice, me! Lol.

So he tells me to come by the Time Hotel where he was staying, and
could I "bring some Gold ones" with me? Huh?? You want me to buy the
condoms?? What?? See back then, that was the first time I ever had to
make such a purchase! I was a little nervous, but up for the challenge.
But I sure as hell wasn't going to buy it from My neighborhood Rite Aid!
I thought "Now they're gonna know I'm having sex, hell no!" Lol.

So I decided to make my purchase at the Rite Aid right next to the Time
Hotel, where I wouldn't know the cashier. Lol. So there I am at the
pharmacy section, I remember it like it was yesterday.."Shit! There are
so many condoms to choose from." But he did say he wanted the Gold ones. I knew that meant Magnums, but still there are different types. So I
just grabbed a regular 10pack box(wishful thinking) of Magnums, and made my way through the what seemed to be prying eyes and the longest freaken line ever. With this big ol’ box in my hand! “Whew all set!”

Time for the "Hokie- Pokie" ;)

The sessions were pretty cool. We used about four condoms. Like I said,
just pretty good ;) So on the way out, I said: "Oh, uhm give me back my
condoms!" "Wtf??" He said! So I respond with: "Uhm we only used four,
where are the other six? Gimme!" He got soo upset, talking 'bout "Nicole
what're you going to do, use them??" "Uhm yea, why wouldn't I?" "Use
them for what?" "Excuse me, did they all of a sudden become water
balloons?" lol He goes on to say, “more than likely he will have sex again at some point. But I Shouldn’t.” Okay, so I should be cool after that session? And not have sex!? Is he crazy?? With my hands still out waiting for my condoms, and my eyes rolled, he asked me If I didn't want him to protect himself out there, don't I care? I responded with, "Yes I care, I want you to protect yourself, but am I supposed to supply you with condoms for the next chick? Don't you want me to protect myself??" He said "No, I want you to not have sex!" Oh please give me a break, go buy your own, these things cost me $14.99 “I want my condoms!”

What's with these men, thinking Sex is not as important to women, as it
is to men! Are we supposed to just sit back, and be placed on the
"Injured Reserve" list and wait for the coach to let us get back in the
game? Uhm No, there is nothing wrong with me, so I'll op to trade
to another team. Where I can get some PT in!

Ugh he was sooo threw with me, lol, oh well! I got my gold ones!!
Ever since then, I always have gold and sometimes red ones in my Jimmy
Choo bag ;) And after watching Oprah, I'm even more adamant about women carrying condoms with them at all times, and not relying on these dudes to bring the candy to the party.

Ok so with that said does anyone out there still get a little “shy” when it comes time to pick up some “Gold ones “?

And which brand gives you that feeling of ecstasy like there's nothing there?

Share with me!

NicoleSpence.me

Neyo's 30th Birthday party!! YAY!!

Ok so, I took my butt out to Neyo's 30th birthday Saturday night,at
Cipriani!! And booooyyyy did I have a good time!!

So let's just dive right in!! First off, I was looking fresh! You know
when you're just having one of those nights when you're feeling real
good, and looking even better in Cute and comfortable shoes too! Shit,
watch out! And for the first time ever I wore bright red lipstick! Let's
just talk about that for a second! Since I had on black latex leggings
and some booties, I thought it would be cute and different from my
normal "muted lip", to throw on some red lipstick!! Although I had to
keep re applying every now and then, because let's face it was open bar
and I'm drinking and the red didn't need to fade. The compliments about
my red lips that night were crazy!!! Crazy! My lips were getting crazy
hot attention both in person and via naughty discreet texts. So ladies
if you were like me and scared to go red, don't be! Do it!! Its like
these men turn into Bulls when the see Red!! "Torrroooo"!!!!

Back to the party! Great party! Again open bar, great food, mini
burgers, french fries, wings (but who the hell would dare to eat
chicken! Lol) and, mac n cheese! So of course I felt the need to eat
since, the food could soak up the open bar nourishment that I was about
to go in on!

Cipriani was decked out soo nicely like David Tutera did it or
something. Dim lights, winter palace type of feel. Of course to add to
the party's flare, the room was equipped body painted naked girls!!
Loved it!! Especially the girls who were in the black sparkle paint!!

So I'm standing around talking to the folks that I know there, having a
good ol' time. When my friend Jack rolls up behind me. Of course his
"non working in the industry butt, but always know about some damn
industry party" was up in the building! Lol.

We chit chat some and then he references the naked girls. "You see these
girls Nicole?" "Yea." "Damn these chicks got the cellulite." "Wtf??
Excuse me jack?" "Yea don't you see it??" "Oh really? I guess you must have
left your six pack at home huh??" He barks back with "I don't need no
six pack, my d@ck touches the floor! No lie!" "Oh please! I don't care
what your joint does, you can still stand to crunch it out!" Mannnn, you
see how these dudes are?? They want to push their own insecurity on you! Oh
so we gotta look perfect while you hand us any ol shit! "Jack this why
you're a good friend, but will always remain in the friend zone." Lol
lol

I don't know if any of you out there have seen me at a party but I'm
always having a good time despite what is going on. Everyone could be
standing around. I have my drink and I'm dancing (off beat valley
girl-ish) laughing and singing all types of crazy. Some people might
even be watching like "what party is she at??" But I don't care! Lol

Sooo I was partying hard, so hard that one of those naked girls even
picked me up!!!! Bare breast, G-string, and all. Good times!

When Neyo arrives we hug and try to briefly catch up. He's so dope, and
he actually wants to do Pilates with me!! (Yes, I teach you know ;) )

But before the night closed in true Nicole fashion, as Neyo is about to
leave, I don't know how it happened, but we started dancing all close. I
was feeling that patron again! And then Neyo does it, bites my bottom
lip! It was soo crazy!! Lol. Then we hug and say good night :)

My girlfriend was like "Ok so you just had Neyo's baby"! Lol.

What a dope down to earth guy, and he's always been that way. Can't wait
to see that movie that he shot in Prague about the Tuskegee Airmen,
comes out next summer.

Thank you so much Carter for taking care of me all night, and making
sure I didn't have to wait in any line (which was hella long!!), and
also letting Neyo know that I teach pilates ahead of time. Neyo really
is, and rolls with great people.


Whew what a night!!! Oh and I saw/ ran into Wendy Williams and her
husband Kevin Hunter. First time seeing them since... "What a
day, What a day!!" (In my Erykah Badu voice)

The whole night all I kept thinking was "where are the video cameras
when you need em", this was a great night!!!

Happy Birthday Neyo!! Yay!!!!

Snap did I forget to mention I even got a threesome offer, from this
cute girl. Gotta be the Red lips I'm telling you!!! ;)

NicoleSpence.me

Is Good Sex written in the Stars? October 13th

Good News! I’m not the only one that tends to attribute good sex, or freaky sex to certain zodiac signs some of my friends do too. What about you?

I’m a Gemini and I don’t know what it is but when I hear “I’m a Taurus, or I’m a Cancer, I get all excited. “Oooo baby I bet you hunger for it like no other!” Lol

My Taurus happened years ago and he still gets brought up to this day. The first thing my girls tend to ask when I have a new “encounter” is, “Is he a James?” lol. Although I was young, James and I had heat! Lol. Those Taurus men are always quick to argue and stand by their decision. They're stubborn as hell, and they take all that “fight” into the bedroom, and I loves it.

Next we have the Cancer man. I don’t know but these men are the most emotional creatures that I have ever dealt with. Ever! They are first ones to tell you they don’t care, you’re not affecting them, but that’s what they say! They're not "Sayers, they're Do-ers!" My Cancer would always down play his feelings, but in the bedroom, Damn It he showed up and Rep-ed! Just very intense and all about pleasing you, they take Sex very seriously, they’re very passionate. We worked up a Sweat!

That’s just me though. I was talking to some of my girlfriends, about which signs they thought laid it down. My girlfriend Jihan who is an Aries thought the Taurus man was by far the best. High five Jihanny! Renee however says she knows what kind of night awaits her in the bedroom with a Leo man. According to her they have all the skills and finesse, it kinda sounds cliché but I guess you can all that the “Roar of the Lion? “ Yikes!

My homeboy who is a cutie Sagittarius says he can always get some good loving from his fellow Sag, Libra, Leos or Gemini’s ☺

I used to hear Scorpio’s are the nastiest but now I’m hearing that, that’s all hype! I’ve never been with one at all, or even dated one, so I guess Scorpio men don’t really pull me in. Hmmm they must not be that nasty. Lol But maybe one day! ;)

What’s so crazy is that Four of my girlfriends all agreed that Capricorns are the most boring of the zodiac, with the lowest most mechanical “In Out In” Sex that they’ve ever experienced! Apparently Capricorn men ration the Goods to the point where you don’t even want it anymore, coupled with this false confidence like they're running things with this behavior! “Saving it makes it better Babe!" Bullshit. Lol Four is a pretty big number in my circle, so this can’t all be superstitious crap! Lol.

Something is definitely to this Sex and the Stars! Right? What do you think?

Check out what I read on this really cool site that I found pretty accurate regarding my sexual preference as a Gemini:

Sexual Preferences of Gemini woman
This woman is quite unpredictable when it comes to sex. The place is not as important for her as mental stimulation. Gemini woman is open to new things with no prejudices about sex . But her strongest turn-on lies in her brain. Phone sex, adult DVD and sex books are among her favorite though, because she can't imagine her life without mental stimulation. Gemini woman is innately gifted with the art of teasing, that's why a soft feather in her hands turns into a spicy sensual play with the wide range of sensations. She likes to invent new ways and intricate manipulations of pleasing her partner. She may introduce balls into vagina and as her partner penetrate her from behind or combine it with manual stimulation of the genitals.


Yeaaahh Booy Go ahead and check out this website is your Zodiac Sexual Preference correct? Is this stuff on the money, Honey?


www.sex-astrology.com



www.NicoleSpence.Me

Are You Confusing Sex with Intimacy? October 7th!

Yes I Am! So I'm going to stand up and testify, well write, but testifying all the same ;) It's been so long since I've tried to build anything with someone, I wonder if I know how. Maybe I've been "just fucking" by choice for so long I forgot the ingredients that go into making "it last forever". Its not that I take sex lightly I don't! I just haven't used that part of my brain in a long time, so "building" is a bit foreign to me. But for sex to happen I have to be Really attracted and into him for us to even take it there, plus everything turns me off! That's why I tend to go long periods with no sexual partner. I'm the girl who thinks about Sex all the time but rarely gets it:/

"Choosey Lover"!

The last time I tried to "build" something, was years ago. I haven't even shared my bed with a dude since my Ex moved out like 4years ago. "Let's go to your place" is the song I sing!

However, if I am into you.. Then I don't second-guess that urge I go with it. But its like I rely on the sex to show him how I feel. Sometimes the words just escape me so " I let my body talk"! My feelings are, how can you doubt my interest when I give it you, the way I do?

Case in point! Friday night I had an impromptu meet up with an old Friend/Flame! He's just someone that is just so special to me. We started out as friends and then we gradually (slow as a snail is more accurate) became more. Somewhere down the line things got blurred he got flaky and confusing, so I ended it.


Of course we didn't end drama less, in true Nicole fashion I spazzed out on him, told him where the f@ck to go, how the hell to get there and which highway to take! I had to go hard, because well to be honest with all of his confusion he still got close to me, only to find out he was suffering from the "Hurry Up and be mine Nicole, No wait hold up I'm crazy, pump your breaks, hold my space!" And you guys already know " There are no reservations here @ Casa de Nicole, it's a first come first serve establishment!"

So Friday I'm up to my usual tricks, food and drinks with one of my "Golden Girls" Aisha. We started out in Chelsea@Rub BBQ for some barbecue with Grey Goose,Soda and a twist of lime. (9O cals with zero carbs ;) Then we made our way to a swanky wine bar called Nectar in Harlem. Since I was in his backyard, and on that Goose, I let him know I would be there.

Poof! Here he comes to join us for drinks. Immediately we catch up, like it hasn't been 9 months of down time. Well face-to-face time, since he has been reaching out, but he was getting the eye roll each time he did. We share stories, emotions and secrets. He opens up about his love for me, and that he sees me as his best friend, that he wants to one day marry. Awwww the whole night was so warm and touching, if this was a movie Alicia Keys "Diary" would be our soundtrack! Yup he moved Nicole.

We go from Wine to Patron Shots as we made our way to the next spot without Aisha, called 17below also in Harlem. The night just got better as the time passed. So of course I want the "real" party to continue upstairs @his place.

A couple times during our conversation my mind wandered and I thought about the first time we did it, I was on top and he said: Nicole clothes don't do you justice, look at you, you're beautiful!!" What? Omg!! Get me Bodied!!" Lol (I AM Sasha Fierce! lol ) Yup I want that Old Thang back, its a quarter to 11!

Unfortunately he had already made plans to meet up with his friends, since this was an impromptu type of deal.."What -F-in-ever!" lol

He begins to tell me how tonight isn't a good night, because all we could have is a quickie! " Ok, So what?" He tells me that after the night we had and the things we shared we shouldn't just go upstairs and f@ck, since there won't be any spooning and no "Good morning, what do you want for breakfast?" (Luv his pancakes) " Shit"! "Damn you"! "I'm pissed!" You talk in your sleep anyway!LOL! It has been a while for me and you, why can't we? And its You damn it! "What's Peanut Butter without the Jelly"?

What is this Fool talking about?

This Big Baby needs her bottle to go to sleep. Bring me upstairs and knock it down then go to your party. No love loss, its love gained!

So long street bickering made short, in a horny drunken rage I walk off and head home. (Aww poor baby) I make it like 2 blocks before I realize he's walking right next to me on the street. My mouth was open, I was so shocked! That's so not a move he would normally make, but me walking away is. So he walks up to me smiles and tells me to " shut up, let's go upstairs!" Aww I love you!

The End!

Ok so sure I got my way in the end, but was his proposed ending better? What do you think?

Sure he said I treat him like a piece of meat, but to that I say: "You're my piece of meat, I can be your loyal customer. You know much I love Steak! "

PSA- to you Mister man (Yes You Cone Head!)" IF and only IF you've come back into my life to only Confuse me, not here to Love Me the way You Say You Do, remember I see Confusion as the Devil, so I will rebuke you Satan be gone!"

Muah!


NicoleSpence.me

Is Porn your Side B@tch?! October 5th

I'm beginning to wonder if my porn watching is too much. Let's face it my ass is as single as a dollar bill, so one moment my sex life is booming and I have a steady piece knocking it down. And then the next minute I'm having an extremely dry season, since I'm also quick to cut a brother off! But be clear despite what sexual climate I'm having, porn has been my constant!

When I was younger porn was dirty. I had no interest in it. Nope not Wayne's daughter. It wasn't till my only adult relationship( the 5year bid) that I was introduced to it. It soon became a thing that we enjoyed to watch together, to be honest it brought us closer. Back then my favorite porn star was Lexington Steel! Shit! That chocolate man, and my boo would always make sure his "nana" ( shut up that was his nic name for me) always had her Lex videos.

Shit if it wasn't for my EX and porn I would no nothing about self pleasure, which I believe is essential for your mental health, ok my mental health. He was the one who not only showed me where my clitoris was, he also showed me what massaging it could do! I'm telling you my butt was at least 22-23 and its like it was A New Day Boy!! I remember it like it was yesterday, when he 1st told me to rub it during.. Back then I thought to myself " WTF? Could this dude be anymore lazy?? Now I gotta make myself cum, shit isn't that your job"!!

But now I'm happy he did, because now I can get this monkey off my back anytime, no problem!
I'm mean come on, if I was having sex regularly maybe I could call a upon a particular session for inspiration, but no such luck in my world! I need video to bring it all back!

A couple of my girlfriends recently confessed through my own admissions that they too are routinely checking for some smut! Lol.

We are all ask the question, are we watching it a bit too much? Has all the nastiness that we're watching cause us to want different ish in the bedroom? I gotta tell you for me it totally has! Lol. I look at it as enticing instructional video, safer than picking that shit up off the streets. Lol. It has definitely increased my interest in shit talking!! Oooo baby I love a good shit talker! For me it helps to keep me in that " Sasha Fierce" attitude during the session. Other wise my mind might wander! Also keeps me up on all the nasty shit, I could say and or contribute during.

To be honest with you, I visit my taboo world a good 4 to 5 times a week, and don't let it be a rainy saturday!! Shoooooot!!!


I'm not using a dildo though, I rather have the flesh for that! I just give my area a little massage to let her know how much I care! Lol. Ahhh its just soo much easier. Its a quick nut then I'm on my way. No drama, no frustration based around his short comings!

So how important of a role does porn play in your life or relationship?

I know I'm not alone who else is Porn-ING- IT-UP??

NicoleSpence.me

Play by Play Part 2 of " Dear Nicole my Girlfriend put her finger in my Booty

Hi Guys!!

I gotta tell you, I'm still thinking and talking about yesterday's blog! Thank goodness my new freaky friend didn't hesitate to send me an email with the "Ass play" play by play! Please don't do what I did , read this shit with a glass of wine or some shit, because these two take their Fucking very seriously, read below.



hi sexy Nicole no my girl's friend has been doing it to her man only with a vibrator and she told my girl to try it with a finger first so she did and now last night she told me that she could feel my dick squirting nut after nut in her mouth like never before I tell u it felt like the head of my dick blew off it felt so good but I told her that's the limit ain't no vibrator going in my freaking asss lol ... it started off as my girl giving me a nice bath and massage so I was oiled up already and she told me get on all fours and pulled my dick from the back I called it a back tug lol... and she stuck a finger in that way by than my dick could of cut diamonds at that point.. so I was ready to nut real quick after that but she told me to turn over on the edge of the bed to give me some of her good as deep throat head and I blew my nut in like 5 min no joke but now I think she wants to try something bigger but fuck that ill keep you posted damm my
dick is hard just thinking about it.. take care your the best sexy

Did you guys read that? Wow! WTH is going on in that house! lol. The "back tug" ain't no freaken joke!! I'm really trying to picture this dude on all fours and her sucking him and then inserting! Man I tell you just when you think you're doing shit in the bedroom and " if these walls could talk" but Shit come to find out I ain't doing shit, and if this is what everyone else is doing then I must be a wack Lay! { jokes lol} The shit I can't believe is that his girlfriend's friend is using a vibrator on her man!! WTF?? WHY?? I don't know if I could still be turned on after all of that, I would really feel like I'm on some man shit! Am I bugging? What's next? A Strap On?

I mean I have always heard about "prostate" massage, but I have never ever had the balls{giggles} to do that! But no Bullshit you guys sure as hell got me curious! Maybe one day I'll give it a try...
One of my readers " Donna" was cool enough to give me a website{ www.tnaflix.com}, that all of you curious people can check out, it gives instructions on how "massage" your man! From what Donna says, her man is handing over his paycheck because of it! OOo and BTW I recommend {www.Spankwire.com} for really cool FREE porn! { shut up stop judging me}

Shoooooot!!! I heard that shit, come to think of it " Mr.Randy" if you wanna try this, when you see me tonight give my bottom a little spank so I know what time it is! lol MUAH!!