PYP: Play Your Position! January 19th!

I felt the need to write about this, since a couple of men in my life have fallen out of my life based, on this topic. “Playing your position” is Key ladies and gents.

But the other day when one of my oldest buds tried to put me on Ice, for not being open to giving up the draws." I want some Buns Nic, have my baby!"

I realized this is an emergency, this article must be written. "Yes I'm so dramatic!" So after about 2weeks of us barely talking, and absolutely no text messages. I'd had about enough; I wanted my buddy back, so he needed to cut the shit!

I called this brother up and I said" Play your Position!" Stop worrying about the job you want "fucking", instead do the job your given "friendship" to best of your ability. And maybe then we can talk promotion!

* The target should never know that they are target either ;)

The same shit happened with that guy that kissed me waaay too early, and now 9 times out 10 we won't be kissing again. He totally ignored the fact that I was only interested in friendship right now, and upon reviewing that maybe benefits will kick in!
But nooooo, all he heard was" She's a challenge I like that, I’m a conquer this ballsy chic!"

Not playing attention caused him to act too soon, miss the mark, and now has turned me off! Not to mention the repeated texts following the date asking for more Kisses!! And again, ignoring my responses of " eh stop", and attempts to change the topic, nope he was still going hard like Chinese arithmetic (old school holla).

I know naturally if someone tells you "No" you instinctively want to turn that No into a Yes! I get it, and I've even done it! Shooot I remember this one guy like 2years ago, I had my nose soooo open I was loving that good ol lovin', and great friendship! I mean we spent everyday together Christmas, Thanksgiving, Birthdays, all that! And when I was tangled up in that drama at work, my friend held me down all day long, like it was he going through it! Wait! Back to the lovin', man I can't even look at a work out bench without blushing! Lawd! That experienced showed me how much good sex, can get you in shape! Whew!

But yea, I couldn't focus and enjoy the friendship completely because I was obsessed with why he wasn't offering a relationship. Since we were friends I should have understood why, since I knew what he had been through in past. But nope I made it into an Ego thing! I made it about me when it wasn't. He never said I wasn't good enough, and he actually showed me I was; by giving me the love and support I needed.

Basically what I had to realize is that we are in a Relationship, we're Friends. What he was giving me was better and saving me from was all the fuckery that comes from saying you're committed, when truth is he might need to be “committed!”

So I say relax and enjoy what you have stop being soo damn greedy!


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