Cuma Cuma Cuma Karma Sutra! January 25th

Don't you just love today's title, every last one of you guys better be singing Boy George right now, or I will really have to question if we have anything in common! Lol.

So what do people do when they aren't getting nearly the amount of sex that want, at the level in which they want it? They think about it all the time, visit it through virtual means (via spankwire.com and a new favorite slutload.com), like yours truly! I can't help it if I'm passionate about it! And after reading that the clitoris has between 6,000-8,000 sensory nerve endings which is more than any other structure in the human body, with only one purpose "Pleasure"! So now I know I'm not crazy! I'm not happy; if my "Yoni" isn't being stimulated that's where the happiness is located, now deal with it!

The other night while I was naughty Internet searching I decided to read more about Karma Sutra, which is defined as the art of love making. This art started in India, which also speaks volumes, you know I got Indian in my family! Lol. Maybe that's why I have an inner Kink to me! Lol. Anyway, Karma Sutra is like a world of sexual positions! It was created with the main purpose stressing the importance of healthy and fulfilled sex life (Amen!)

Through my search I hit the mother load! I found www.MyKarmaSutrabuddy.com!

I just love this site, because it allows you to see the sexual positions acted out for you by 6 different body types from the In Shape chick, to the Thicky Thick girl, not to mention the Chubby man to the dude with the nice pecks and abs. They even have midget loving! You want it, you pick it, select the position and watch them play! "Wheelbarrow, Bumper Cars, Frog Leap, they do it all!!"

Since a little greed lives in all of us, even me, I didn't just stop there I also found FHM's 28Days of Karma Sutra on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WsewNGduREY.
28 naughty positions acted out by 2 G string wearing divas! These girls are giving you some Reverse Cow Girl, Stand and Deliver, The Crab, plus much more!

In sad and related news I would like to say that I've tried all these positions demonstrated on these sites, but alas my sex life ain't shit! So I haven't gotten to some of these yet. Trust and believe when I do I'll share, as I'm hoping to bring the house down! Owwwwww. While you voyage through the sites you might notice that some of these positions are new to you and some you'll just be like:

"Oh that's what it’s called"!

Either way its hella fun to watch and uhm a creative way to step the game up if need be!

Remember All those nerve endings means, the clitoris is super sensitive, and it’s actually at least 4x's more sensitive than the head of a man's Penis!

So take my advice if your lady has been fussing ask yourself:

" Have ya'll really been f@cking??" Lmao!

So forget about the plain ol Doggy and try a little Reverse Froggy ;) Loves it!!

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PYP: Play Your Position! January 19th!

I felt the need to write about this, since a couple of men in my life have fallen out of my life based, on this topic. “Playing your position” is Key ladies and gents.

But the other day when one of my oldest buds tried to put me on Ice, for not being open to giving up the draws." I want some Buns Nic, have my baby!"

I realized this is an emergency, this article must be written. "Yes I'm so dramatic!" So after about 2weeks of us barely talking, and absolutely no text messages. I'd had about enough; I wanted my buddy back, so he needed to cut the shit!

I called this brother up and I said" Play your Position!" Stop worrying about the job you want "fucking", instead do the job your given "friendship" to best of your ability. And maybe then we can talk promotion!

* The target should never know that they are target either ;)

The same shit happened with that guy that kissed me waaay too early, and now 9 times out 10 we won't be kissing again. He totally ignored the fact that I was only interested in friendship right now, and upon reviewing that maybe benefits will kick in!
But nooooo, all he heard was" She's a challenge I like that, I’m a conquer this ballsy chic!"

Not playing attention caused him to act too soon, miss the mark, and now has turned me off! Not to mention the repeated texts following the date asking for more Kisses!! And again, ignoring my responses of " eh stop", and attempts to change the topic, nope he was still going hard like Chinese arithmetic (old school holla).

I know naturally if someone tells you "No" you instinctively want to turn that No into a Yes! I get it, and I've even done it! Shooot I remember this one guy like 2years ago, I had my nose soooo open I was loving that good ol lovin', and great friendship! I mean we spent everyday together Christmas, Thanksgiving, Birthdays, all that! And when I was tangled up in that drama at work, my friend held me down all day long, like it was he going through it! Wait! Back to the lovin', man I can't even look at a work out bench without blushing! Lawd! That experienced showed me how much good sex, can get you in shape! Whew!

But yea, I couldn't focus and enjoy the friendship completely because I was obsessed with why he wasn't offering a relationship. Since we were friends I should have understood why, since I knew what he had been through in past. But nope I made it into an Ego thing! I made it about me when it wasn't. He never said I wasn't good enough, and he actually showed me I was; by giving me the love and support I needed.

Basically what I had to realize is that we are in a Relationship, we're Friends. What he was giving me was better and saving me from was all the fuckery that comes from saying you're committed, when truth is he might need to be “committed!”

So I say relax and enjoy what you have stop being soo damn greedy!


www.NicoleSpence.me

He thought it was a good Kiss?!

Hiii
Happy New Year! (All late yes I know) But sometimes-real life is slow :/

I am soo a believer in a kiss can make it or break it, I've actually been running that line since the 7th grade you can ask my bestie Aisha! But in order for the kiss to seal it, don't people normally give off kissing signs? And it’s not me applying my lip-gloss buddy! Geez!

Case and point the other night someone forced a kiss moment when there was none. We had just finished spending a couple of hours hanging out at this sports bar downtown and we were proceeding to his car. I guess I said something witty or funny so he thought "good moment", because as my hand approached the car door to open it, he called me to come to where he was standing in front of the car. I thought maybe he was about to smoke a cig and didn't want me to just plop my ass in the car just yet. So I walked over and said, “what's up”? That's when he goes in for the kiss!! Immediately my mouth tensed up, all these thoughts are running through my mind like " “how did we get here? Really, you want to kiss me after eating a burger with onions”? So I tell myself over and over" Nicole relax maybe this won't be soo bad if you relax your jaw and your mouth stop contracting all muscles! Mouth looking like a prolapsed bottom!" Lol

It wasn't working so I pull out early, and I say nothing while walking back to the car. I just love to kiss so much, for me it can make me feel like making love you know, make me that hot! Is that just me?? But anyway when I got in the car he said," that was great!" He loved it! I just smiled. "Awkard"!

I mean I think all of you can tell by now, that I'm not afraid to make a move when I'm ready and want too. I just think eh the kiss happened too soon. Although we had a pretty chill time, and we will probably hang out again that doesn't mean we need to be all kissy kissy just yet. Its different strokes for different folks, some folks will get stroked quick and others have to wait. Lol.

He did say some interesting stuff, like he randomly checks a woman's bathroom and if he doesn't see Summer's Eve he isn't licking it! Lol. Yup that's his deal breaker!! Have you ever heard that??!!! Only me! Oh and he thinks girls who notoriously double text are sexy and cute. Apparently that tells him that she's secure enough in herself that she doesn't care what he thinks she wants her response Now! "Interesting"

Wow! Who knew??!!! I tell you, men love us when we act crazy!! Lol!

So in efforts to avoid another oral catastrophe I decided to jot down some signs I think are pretty universal that a woman wants to be kissed, although I think most women i.e. "Me" just make it happen all on my own.

• She might lick and bite her lips constantly! That’s goodie although again for me I’m a bit of an LL Cool J chick always licking my lips so this might be the bamboozle with me! Lol
• Heavy touching, caressing you’re hand a subtle back rub..
• A bit too “touchy feely means touch me “

Ahhh you get the picture, in the words of my big homie “ Know your Personnel”


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